There are a lot of bucket heads out here. Out of the bucket heads, there are a lot of hoes, scuttlebutts, scip scop scallywags, and scoundrels out here. So I felt, that I should share some of the signs that the girl your talking to, the potenital Mrs whatever, your future baby’s mama … may be a hoe. Feel free to augment the list.
8. She won’t share her “Magic Number” (how many people she f*cked)
I know not everyone agrees with this, and I know there are a couple of readers who disagree … but if the girl your serious with is just adamant about not sharing … you might want to take a double take. And I know I’m going to catch hell for this one, but I just feel like what do you have to hide? If its not that high, or not that bad … then she would say something.
7. She gets in every club for free and knows every promoter
She could be a friendly person. She could just be well connected. She could just have a very good promoter friend … or … she could be f*cking (or have f*cked) every single one of them. I only say this one because I knew a girl sleeping her way through every line.
6. There is a password lock on her phone
The guys I know who lock their phones are whores (no offense). The last girl I messed with who had an automatic lock on her phone was a little more promiscous than she led on intially. Could be just me … but I don’t trust it!
5. She keeps condoms and KY in her purse
Condoms in the purse isn’t the worst thing nowadays. I personally like a girl who at leasts keeps condoms where she lives because it shows she treats safe sex just as importantly as I do. Keeping condoms in your purse would make me think twice, but I wouldn’t double take or anything. If you had condoms and a pack of KY jelly or astroglide … well … you came prepared to do something serious … and prolly do it a lot.
4. She keeps Pregnancy Tests at her place
Uh … why else would she keep tests like this at her apartment/house/shack unless she was f*cking so much … you just could “never know”! If you see more than one … you know whats up!
3. She says “blah blah blah … when are we gonna f*ck” … on the first date
Maybe she really really likes you. Maybe your just the ying to her yang and she can’t wait to connect. Maybe she knows that sleeping with you on the first date is a good way to start a relationship (HA!). Or maybe … she’s a hoe!
2. She kindly says “that was an hour and will be $120″ after the deed.
Do I really need to explain this one??? Sure, maybe she just wants some cab money back home and thinks you should front the bill. Who knows … maybe she kept the time just to let you know how long you lasted. Who knows …
1. Your friend says … “that girls a hoe”
This is proabably the biggest one. If your friend, and I mean a good friend, tells you your girl is a hoe, you basically have to believe him. She is going to say some stupid stuff like “Don’t you trust me” or “He’s just jealous because he tried to get with me” … but don’t believe that bullsh*t. Guys aren’t like “others”. We don’t bicker, backstab, and make up random lies … he probably has your best interests at heart.
I actually have no argument for this list (someone check my head please) seriously though even on the “magic number issue” I think when all is said and done contrary to my comments before I would share my number if and only if I am in a serious committed relationship and my partner feels that its gonna make him feel better about me and our relationship then I will tell but under those conditions only.
I’m just wondering whether or not a blog like this would show up in an Asian, White, Native American or other blog place? Probably not…the only group of men who consistently degrade the women in their culture are black men. I’ve heard that the strength of a culture is determined by how well the women are represented. This representation is the backdrop of the men. Ergo, if women in this culture are whores, then that means that the men are at best the worst of all cultural whoremongers. But have no fear, black women actually outshine black men in academic, career, financial, home ownership, and just all around measures of good common sense. It must be true. No stats are out on us being in prison, on probation or on parole.
Umm… If you’re not my husband (or fiance), you don’t need to know my magic number. Women get judged on their “#” in ways that men don’t. A simple fact of life in this man’s world. Also, someone’s number of sexual partners doesn’t say anything about their ability in being selective or choosing appropriate partners nor is it indicative of their practicing safe sex. For example: a person’s number could be 5, but maybe they had unprotected sex with two of those partners and contracted an STD vs. a person who’s number is 18 but has been vigilant in being safe everytime they’ve engaged in a sexual act. Just my opinion though.
I agree with you. Plus it is nobody’s business; that is ones private life. Most men should not call women whores because most men are whores their selves, so they should shut the hell up,those nasty dogs! I know girls who never married because most men are whore/dogs. Any man who have sex with a female then call her a whore/ treat her like a whore is a whore his self; the saying goes, “it takes one to know one.” There are women whose been mistreated by man after man thus they give up on men. I know men who raped virgins then turn around and told her and people that she is a whore, he is the one who is a whore! I know plenty male whores, G.V., A. S., J., etc.
@Mikki: I’m shocked!!!
@Dark&Stormy: I’m just saying … if things are going good, and your telling me your secrets and I’m sharing mine, thats something you should trust me with. Didn’t say witholding makes you a hoe … just said she “Might Be”.
Your friend says … “that girls a hoe”
seldom if ever do I laugh so hard that I spray my computer monitor with my morning coffee…thanks for making me take my lazy behind downstairs twice in one morning for paper towels!
great blog!
JM
Producer/Director
“What Black Men Think”
for real
You are so ignant!! LOL!!!
Well you already know I ain’t telling my magic number so whatevs…
Silly, I lock my cell phone so it won’t accidently call someone while it’s in my purse…LMAO!!!
You are crazy…This list had me screaming!!!
@JM: Thanks
@Tiffany: You lock your phone too … *sigh*. Its like I’m trying to make things work, but you just won’t meet me halfway.
I always feel funny about the magic number. I know when some people are young…in the first few years of college or something like that…immaturity and the nature of that type of environment could lead to the stupid decisions that get that number high. Lets say during the first two years of college, the number is two times higher than the following three years. Is there a such thing as drawing a line between that obvious change?
Second, any girl that goes out to clubs enough to know promoters/bartenders/kitchen staff and peck the bouncers on the lips before cutting that line for free is just not…fresh.
I’m with Tiffany on the whole locking your phone to avoid calling people on accident. I have the t-mobile my favs and anytime the send button is hit, it automatically calls the first person on my list…
Other than that I hear you on the rest of the thing on your list, I don’t fully agree, but I can see where you are coming from.
I totally agree 100% with 4 thru 8 but DANG you making it hard..I can’t even have a passcode to my phone..what if its stolen??
I have the tmobile mda and I lock it so the buttons aren’t randomly pushed while in my purse…is that so bad!
why am I defending myself so much with you??..its not like I’m in the running for the next Mrs. SBM..HAHA consider yourself LUCKY!! and when I lived and worked in DC I did know a lot of the promoters and club owners but it was my job..I was in the entertainment industry .. and not the kind that involves a pole! LMAO!!!
@SpaceIsThePlace: That alludes to a bigger question … is it once a hoe, always a hoe? Personally, I say no. Sure, you were wild and crazy, as long as it wasn’t crazy (sorry, but 70 a year is just too much “fun”) … I don’t think you should pay for it for the rest of your life.
Only God know why everyone has done or didn’t do whatever in their lives; therefore stop judging, I say this to everyone. Get on with living and let live, nobody is perfect, we are imperfect creatures. 1Timothy 3: 2 -4 ”
for men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, self-assuming, haughty, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, disloyal, having no natural affection, not open to any agreement, slanders, without self-control, fierce, without love of goodness, betrayers,headstrong, puffed up the pride, lovers of pleasures rather than lovers of God, having a form of Godly devotion but proving false to its power,” Galatians 6:7 Do not be mislead: God is not one to be mocked. For whatever a man is sowing, this he will also reap.” The New World Translation of the Holy Scriptures, revised 1984. Let focus on learning how to love God, improving how to love ourselves and people within our race, and last but not least, improve on how to love all people. Love and peace to all.
@SBM: I said it before and I’ll say it again: You can’t turn a ho into a housewife, ’cause hos don’t act right.
9 out of 10 doctors stated that men who believe in “Ho Redemption” suffer from “Captain Save-A-Ho” syndrome as well as bitchass-ness.
I agree with all except the condoms in the purse thing… I keep a condom in my purse… just in case… now if she has a slew of them, then you need to worry… also I dont agree with the number thing… in true essence men cant really handle the number… whether its big or small… they want to know but they dont REALLY want to know… so I dont think keeping that from a man is necessarily a sign that she’s a hoe… but I do think certain things she be put out in the open if a serious relationship develops as you said this is something you should know before you propose in another post.
Its quiet interesting that you find that men can’t really handle knowing the “number”, and would I agree to some extent, cause there are those men who date known hoes and strippers and I would believe that they would expect an outrageous “number”. However I think women have just as much trouble handling the whole “number” thing as well. Its interesting how (some) women don’t like a guy if his number is zero (being too low) or if the number is too high.
@Eb: Condoms in the purse is cool … but when you pull out some KY Jelly … is it really that serious!
The nuber … well … don’t know what to say. Still shocked its such an issue for so many.
So…what if she USED to be a ho? Retired from the game and stepped up her life 100%? She now a multiple degree holding woman handling hers? You respect and admire her, love her even, and then you ask the magic number..does business count in pleasure? We have all made mistakes, been in places we got out of..or not. Judge not..no?
Thank you I agree; I also agree if she do not have multiple degrees, One do not need degrees to improve.
SBM, if she has any of these traits, you better think twice and keep it moving (except for your #8…that’s negotiable because she might not tell you the number because it really might not be your business…unless it develops into something more serious…but we’ve talked about this one, so moving right along…smile).
SBM: I just need you to be a little bit more flexible on a few things, baby, and we can make it work…LOL!!!!!
@ CurlyCurlyNervy: Hos can’t retire. “Once a ho – always” Plus, it’s hard to call “33″, the hypothetical magical numnber limit, a mistake. Wouldn’t a young lady stop making these so-called mistakes after 10,11,12,….15,16,17… ?
To play devil’s advocate…shouldn’t sex and pleasure be someone’s right as a living being? Lets say someone is crafty enough to have as much sex that pleases THEM, and its an amount for them only, not affected by outside influence…shouldn’t they have the right to it (Granted it’s safe sex)? And when something ridiculous like 33 comes out…and she just explains that she loves sex and pleasure, and is ready for it from one person for a while (or the rest of her life), then couldn’t one start to understand that? Especially if she’s never cheated on her partner?
…In reality however, I know that we take people how they are and not how they were, but the thought of masses of people having been with a girl I like or love…freaks me out. I still maintain the argument that it’s not right to spread yourself so thin.
I would not be surprised if you’ve been with masses of females, but you judge right. Many men have sex with masses of females, but they want someone who have not had sex with masses. Mr. Judge!
@CurvyNervy: I think you can retire. People can turn their life around … but there are some points of no return. I know of one girl, true story, who said she slept with 70 guys in one year. Now she works (for her boyfriend) as an escort. After all that, sorry, but your tainted for life.
@Tiffany: IDK … I’m not sure I’m seeing the commitment I need. I feel like I’m the only one trying to make this work … lol.
@Antidater: I do believe there can be a turnaround. Peronally, in addition to the number, I like to see a people vs. time graph. I can live with a swell when young, but continued growth is a dealbreaker.
@SpaceIsThePlace: I feel you have to own up to your past. Would you be ok if someone didn’t tell you they served 10 years in prison? If you really liked sex and have no regrets about it, then you shouldn’t be scared to share!
No one life is tained for ever God forgives; and let’s try not to judge; when you judge you will be judged.
#8…men never believe me when I say the magic number since it’s low, so I just don’t answer the question.
#7…I agree…would definitely make ME raise an eyebrow, unless of course the person is in that business for a living.
#6…come on??? seriously??? LOL!
#5 & #4…no argument from me with these!! Ugh!
#3…LMAO – maybe she’s just outspoken? LOL!
#2 & #1…uhhhh…way too obvious!
Hilarious!
YEAH I TOTALLY AGREE WITH ALL COMMITS . ONCE A HOE ALWAYS A HOE.BUT ONE QUESTIN WHAT ABOUT CHICKS THAT LIE ABOUT THEIR CHILD OR CHILDRENS FATHER?? ( A SPERM DONATOR)…
I think people should stop judging people on what they do or did in the past. That’s why it’s in the past. That’s probably why it’s so difficult for black people to have successful relationships. They are too busy finding reasons why it won’t work. In my opinion, I think it’s no one’s business what people have done, (unless it’s positive) but more importantly, what they are doing now.
I THANK GOD AND YOU for your insight and wisdom.
As I look back I see and learned that people are overly concerned peoples bank account, ed,
where they live, career, who they are having sex with, and all other sex related stuff. People are meddlesome.
@lrb825: If you don’t know the past, your doomed to repeat it. I believe in trends and that what you have done does say something about who you are.
You have a valid point, but I do believe people can and will change their lives. I believe that everyone deserves a second and third chance in life. If the person you are dealing with displays hoe properties, then you can make a decision whether or not to deal with them. But if a person has had a promiscuous past, and have changed their lives, you need to base your decision on the present. Honestly, I am not trying to convince you to change your mind about how you view women with not so desirable pasts, all I’m trying to accomplish here is a different view of things…
@lrb825: I am all for a second chance. I don’t think the past completely dictates the future … but it is something that I should know. How can I give you a second chance if i don’t know what happened the first time around.
I truly do appreciate your different point of view.
Wat if da guy sleeps around aint he a hoe too? i personaly wouldnt want a man dat have slept around cuz im not into “players n pimp wonna bes” a good girl like me deserves a good man. anywayz i dont think you should judge people for their past. theres a reason y itz called “past”, i believe people can change! thatz my opnion anyway
@Afrian_Queen:Guys can be hoes too. I’m a guy and have to worry about female hoes … so I wrote about that. But as the “double standard” goes … a guy being a hoe just isn’t as serious.
People can change … but if a person understands that people can change, then they can handle hearing the past, because they know you can change.
Maybe a guy being a “hoe” should be considered serious. So much blame is already put on the majority of them for being dead beat fathers, responsible for spreading diseases to unsuspecting women and the reason why so many women are bitter. Maybe if people would look at the source of their behaviors (their promiscuity) instead of concentrating on their symptoms (as previously mentioned), then attitudes towards men sleeping around would be deliberated with a bit more seriousness than it is now.
You know, sometimes you really don’t know who you are dating and what motivates them. But you can check them out if you want for free. It’s not hard to Google someone or whatever and see what they have been up to. Most of the time, it’s nothing, but it’s that once in a thousand change that there is. And if there is, wouldn’t you like to know? Me too
This post is absolutely hilarious…and pretty much true. Good Work!
RULE #8 YOUR FRIEND SAYS THAT YOUR GIRLS A HOE. THIS IS NOT TRUE.. I WAS W/THIS GUY FOR 3 YEARS AND HIS COUSIN WAS HATING ON OUR RELATIONSHIP, OR I GUESS HE AINT LIKE ME, BUT HE TOLD MY BOYFRIEND THAT I LET 6 MEN RUN A TRAIN ON ME @ MY FRIEND’S HOUSE.. I CAN’T BELIEVE THIS DUDE LIED ON ME LIKE THAT.. I REALLY DID LIKE THIS GUY AND I WAS FAITHFUL TO HIM THE WHOLE TIME. HE RUINED MY RELATIONSHIP. EVEN THOUGH MY BOYFRIEND STILL WAS WITH ME I EVENTUALLY LEFT HIM BECAUSE I AINT WANT TO DEAL WITH HIS FAMILY.. I FELT LIKE HIS COUSIN LIED ON ME CAUSE HE WANTED TO SLEEP W/ME.
Thank you for sharing that; many mens’ friends are not really their friends.
yes !! Men that sleep around are hoes too!! Just like you can’t turn a hoe into a house wife or a wife in general. Well news flash!!! You can’t turn a male hoe into a husband. It just will not work, either ways hoes are not fit for relationships, hell hoes can’t even be friends male or female.
You lost me on the Lock phone many people lock there phone so that if some one steels it they will be SOL. plus you have no buisness wondering about the lock on someones phone if its not your mate thats kinda of insecure if you let some one talk long of enough and listen and don’t come across judge mental they will eventually tell on themselves. thats how you tell who you are dealing with.
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This is a reply to anyone who said “guy hoe”… lol I’ve been called it in the past and I have gathered that there isn’t such thing, the reason a guy can not be a hoe is because it is harder for a guy to “get around”. Genetically males are more sexually “active”, therefore making it easier for women to get some lol. In my life, I have seen, FAT whores, UGLY whores, I’ve even seen MIDGET whores strolling around. People, have you ever seen a FAT guy “hoe”? Ever seen an UGLY guy “hoe”? …. Think about it… when a woman’s “magic number” is high, its because shes a whore, when a guy has a high “magic number”, he aint a whore, lol just gifted m8!
wellllll that’s my view lol, you cant call a guy a whore and expect him to be offended, nor call a girl a whore and expect her not 2 slap ya.
Peace, ozzy
most of you girls on here are hoes lol
You all are funny. Its a posting its someone’s opinion let it be, it is funny though. Some of them are kind of extreme though, i suppose i’d have to wonder about a person male/female that actually does carry KY jelly with them and then i would also think about the person who hangs with someone that carries KY jelly..hmm..kind of suspect..lol. I mean to each their own. Peace ya’ll..stay BBB(Black,Beautiful and Blessed)
iphone owners have to keep their phone locked or it will dial all kind of people, is that being a hoe? you can’t be serious.
You are a jerk
you cant sum up every girl like this. each girl is different. you need to get out more and you will realize this. maybe if you spent the time you used to make up this dumb list to go out and try to socialize with a girl then maybe you wouldnt be moaning.
Any girl could be a ho. there are no special signs to look for. If she is one dont worry. Obviously not what you want so jus move on from her. you just need to give that girl a chance.
I think that is also the same in this situation. ,
I was thinking that it was a huge chance to be a responsible human being and correct the mistake. ,
*THIS APPLIES TO EVERYONE* And who said she left because he was not her type? How do you know this; what is the name of this she and he you are talking about? Perhaps you need to stay out of other peoples personal lives. I say this to everyone, ” stay out of peoples personal lives, you are causing irreversible damages.
SBM….very, very funny blog…I have to read you more often.
Another sign she might be a hoe is if she’s a woman. They all have tendencies.
To writer of 8 Signs She Might Be a Hoe…2009 edition – Single Black Male: What is n sh* ? For your information Almighty God do not make sh ! People who call people sh , is the ones who are sh ; It takes one to know one! If a female/females is a whore it was a man/men who made her/women a whore/whores! My feeling about you on the subject of whores is (plenty of men are whores therefore you are talking about yourself and the guy who told his friend, “she is a hoe” is a whore too) both of you are you are a small minded people. God say when ‘you judge you will be judged.’ Take my advice stop destroying peoples lives with this type of talk, The Holy Bible say, “love your neighbor,” your neighbor is everyone on the planet. Jesus Christ was The Greatest Teacher who ever lived on this planet he taught human kind about love, to love his father Jehovah God, and, honor him. Psalm 83: 18. ‘Jehovah God gave his son Jesus Christ in our behalf,’ You can learn more about this in The Holy Bible. This is truly the best way to live. You are welcome to a no cost home Bible Study with a male teacher if you like. I hope the best for you, take care, and ponder over what God want for you.
Hilarious! LOL
I resent labels period. Why does she have to be a hoe? Let her have a magic number and call it a day. Too many times people are ready to judge others based on the number. If her behavior is in question – how she carries or portrays herself then fine. But a woman with multiple partners that may be well over the “accepted amount” shouldn’t be subjected to what society think she should be called.
For the record, why disclose a number anyhow…will it make you feel better as a person?
The pregnancy test one isnt really true. Ive only ever been with this one guy who i truly love, for 3 years now and we are getting married. I bought the test after not taking the pill and missing my period, and wanting to make sure so i could prepare myself before the pregnancy would get advanced. There was 2 in the packet so theres one left. Also, abortion clinics give you one to make sure the treatment has worked if it was just the medical pill. So thats dumb. I clicked on this coz i know a lot about guys thro natural people skills and my man, hence why im with an amazing guy who loves me but not much about girls like this coz i stay away from anyone who doesnt respect themselves and is easy.
Don’t know if I agree with #8 about the magic number. As a dude, whatever number she says is going to be 1 too many. Then you start asking who it was with, was it a one night stand or relationship sex…slippery slope. I’d like to add #9 to the list which is “If she teaches you something new the first time ya’ll sexin…Prolly a hoe.”
You left a few off:
She has too many male friends…the tomboy rap is bull!
She dances like a stripper…She IS a stripper!! LOL!
It is soo tacky to ask how many people someone has slept with. You should ask if they have been tested and request to see their results.
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I don’t know, I do know this, each person who feel that way is the only person who can answer that question.