Single Black Male

Umm… If you’re not my husband (or fiance), you don’t need to know my magic number. Women get judged on their “#” in ways that men don’t. A simple fact of life in this man’s world. Also, someone’s number of sexual partners doesn’t say anything about their ability in being selective or choosing appropriate partners nor is it indicative of their practicing safe sex. For example: a person’s number could be 5, but maybe they had unprotected sex with two of those partners and contracted an STD vs. a person who’s number is 18 but has been vigilant in being safe everytime they’ve engaged in a sexual act. Just my opinion though.

Your friend says … “that girls a hoe”

seldom if ever do I laugh so hard that I spray my computer monitor with my morning coffee…thanks for making me take my lazy behind downstairs twice in one morning for paper towels!

great blog!
JM
Producer/Director
“What Black Men Think”

I’m with Tiffany on the whole locking your phone to avoid calling people on accident. I have the t-mobile my favs and anytime the send button is hit, it automatically calls the first person on my list…
Other than that I hear you on the rest of the thing on your list, I don’t fully agree, but I can see where you are coming from.

I agree with all except the condoms in the purse thing… I keep a condom in my purse… just in case… now if she has a slew of them, then you need to worry… also I dont agree with the number thing… in true essence men cant really handle the number… whether its big or small… they want to know but they dont REALLY want to know… so I dont think keeping that from a man is necessarily a sign that she’s a hoe… but I do think certain things she be put out in the open if a serious relationship develops as you said this is something you should know before you propose in another post.

So…what if she USED to be a ho? Retired from the game and stepped up her life 100%? She now a multiple degree holding woman handling hers? You respect and admire her, love her even, and then you ask the magic number..does business count in pleasure? We have all made mistakes, been in places we got out of..or not. Judge not..no?

SBM: I just need you to be a little bit more flexible on a few things, baby, and we can make it work…LOL!!!!!

To play devil’s advocate…shouldn’t sex and pleasure be someone’s right as a living being? Lets say someone is crafty enough to have as much sex that pleases THEM, and its an amount for them only, not affected by outside influence…shouldn’t they have the right to it (Granted it’s safe sex)? And when something ridiculous like 33 comes out…and she just explains that she loves sex and pleasure, and is ready for it from one person for a while (or the rest of her life), then couldn’t one start to understand that? Especially if she’s never cheated on her partner?

…In reality however, I know that we take people how they are and not how they were, but the thought of masses of people having been with a girl I like or love…freaks me out. I still maintain the argument that it’s not right to spread yourself so thin.

#8…men never believe me when I say the magic number since it’s low, so I just don’t answer the question.
#7…I agree…would definitely make ME raise an eyebrow, unless of course the person is in that business for a living.
#6…come on??? seriously??? LOL!
#5 & #4…no argument from me with these!! Ugh!
#3…LMAO - maybe she’s just outspoken? LOL!
#2 & #1…uhhhh…way too obvious!

Hilarious!

I think people should stop judging people on what they do or did in the past. That’s why it’s in the past. That’s probably why it’s so difficult for black people to have successful relationships. They are too busy finding reasons why it won’t work. In my opinion, I think it’s no one’s business what people have done, (unless it’s positive) but more importantly, what they are doing now.

You have a valid point, but I do believe people can and will change their lives. I believe that everyone deserves a second and third chance in life. If the person you are dealing with displays hoe properties, then you can make a decision whether or not to deal with them. But if a person has had a promiscuous past, and have changed their lives, you need to base your decision on the present. Honestly, I am not trying to convince you to change your mind about how you view women with not so desirable pasts, all I’m trying to accomplish here is a different view of things…

Wat if da guy sleeps around aint he a hoe too? i personaly wouldnt want a man dat have slept around cuz im not into “players n pimp wonna bes” a good girl like me deserves a good man. anywayz i dont think you should judge people for their past. theres a reason y itz called “past”, i believe people can change! thatz my opnion anyway

You know, sometimes you really don’t know who you are dating and what motivates them. But you can check them out if you want for free. It’s not hard to Google someone or whatever and see what they have been up to. Most of the time, it’s nothing, but it’s that once in a thousand change that there is. And if there is, wouldn’t you like to know? Me too