Single Black Male

I wonder at times.
I haved loved more and longer than most married people have for their entire lives and do I really need or could I do that again? So sometimes I really think about just looking for someone stable and well off to be with. thats in all seriousness. so I answered yes to the question of the day thingy. Im still out here looking for someone to love me, but when I dont find her (or when I reach 80 first dates which ever comes first) im gonna shut down operations and hook up with one of these jersey cougars and call it a day.
My cougar has already made me the offer to stop dating all these girls and move in and help her raise her child and keep her “happy and laughing.” I ignored the comment, but at times when I get off a failed first date and hear “its not you.. its me Im just not ready to date a nice guy” again and again…… I gotta have to start to consiter the offer

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because unlike you…. im not SELF centered.
perhaps I could learn a litle from you and you could learn a little from me (omg what a concept!!)
-Has-

Sometimes I do pick up

love…..Thats what its all about. Sometimes I do pick up a few things here and there about women (and sometimes hoez). But lovin another doesn’t have to be all or nothing-zero sum. Because I like another does not make incapable of liking myself. I don’t like myself so much at the detriment of others because that would be self centered…. and I know that at the end of my life I will feel better knowing I actually tried to love and failed than become a coward old spinster living home with my cats and gucci sunglasses.

I find this video funny. It dosnt show how many “lazy” men are in atlanta…. it shows how many men would take no strins attached, no drama sex…. why are there so many? because you have women like this who like to manipulate others for their own personal enjoyment. did you see the look of elation on her face? it was ghastly to say the least. yet she was suprised that 1500 emails rolled in. frm what I hear from one of my fellas in buckhead (sorry ladies I cant hook you up he is bangin his blonde intern) the last thing you want to look for is a woman in ATL, its just too bitter and hostile a cimate datingwise.

dudes would rather makes money, chill with the homies and play xbox than go out on dates. this video shows you why insted of disproving why.

If I had the means to pay a man to do just what i asked i would do it 1 million times ova!!! hecks yea! but would I have it the other way around? nah not unless he was morris chestnut or somethin

Antidater - your response didn’t surprise me. Maybe all the golddigging men and women will start their own organization.

lol Mikki…“not unless he was morris chestnut or somethin”

Antidater - who is surprised? I’ve said “didn’t surprise” and “not surprised” in two different posts Nothing men do surprise me.

I’m not Mikki, but fine chocolate only gets better with time so regardless of Morris Chestnut’s current or lack of current acting roles, the brother still has it going on.

How about Flava Flav? * chuckle *

“I actually tried to love and failed than become a coward old spinster living home with my cats and gucci sunglasses.”

For you my dear I would suggest Marc Jacobs glasses for men. Gucci is much to metro-sexual for you.

When I first saw this video a few months ago I was surprised, but too me its the perfect example of the law of attraction (the spiritual one), you get what you expect right. I mean if you are a married wealthy single woman on a primarily single dating site, and you’re doing something for “shyts and giggles”- hey you’re probably NOT going to find your soul mate.

This is really appropriate on a basic level, some men on here bytch and moan about not finding the love they want and approach it with a cynicism–HELLO. You get what you expect.

how can these men out here NOT be cynical? you have a society that still hates you, and your own kind dosent feel its safe to love you. Alot of men would rather have a sice of pussy they could grab onto no questions or strings attached… rather than weed thru drama these days. I was reading one of or sistas blogs just this morning. an ex hook up sent her a text that she hadnt spoken to in 3 months. she pretty much told him he had to either buy her redobster, bring her dinner to her place, bring music, bring a movie, dont stay late, give her oral… but dont DARE expect anything back. if that isnt a game or a show of power/manipulation I dont know what is. she then was suprised the brotha didnt call her back?! I bet you $9 the brotha went home and fired up his proton cannon and spent his night doing something less stressful.

but back to the topic…. Mn dont want to play games. This is ne reason why less and less men are cheating now, its because the risk vs reward just plain sucks now. back in the day a woman wouldnt make you jump thru hoops … look what you have to do in 2008 just to get smeone to “at least rub the dick” as was said on the other bog.

I wonder if this is why I have been on 39 dates? r could it be that no chick wants my al roker type jolly ass :p
oh well theres always Xbox!
side note… is it me, or is every black man like CQC as opposed to sniping? I havent met a brotha online yet who uses sniper rife r beam cannon, but every nigga and his cuzin will run around the back alley with the shotgun or bruteshot. think its something genetic or the music?

WTF I leave for a minute and come back to some bullshit?? Hasani my blog is for EVERYBODY to see if You haven’t noticed its my name at the top of the blog roll, I am not hiding behind any bodies computer screen so if your going to refer to my shit then just do it.

further more u are fucking kidding me with my post!! U went right ahead and took out certain points on the post and plugged them here just as you claim comeback does to you!! get the fuck outta here!! You need to go back and read the facts which i left them there for ya buddy!!!

PISSED OFF!!

Mikki he enjoys the attention. I’m trying to find the “flaw” in your post on your spot, and other than a WHOLE lot of da%mn texting-I really don’t see an issue. Its honest. Its coming from your perspective and I appreciate it.

As for you Hasani, I’ve also dated ALOT. I’ve never thought enough to count it. But I’m not in a competition with you or anyone else, but it was enough to know the difference between what I want and don’t want. And newsflash my “long distance relationship” was long distance for a little under a year. He is home now, and was so more than a year before he left –so sweety you do the math, its really really simple.

Before him I did something that is a little foreign to you (I TOOK A BREAK and dated). I’m not ashamed to say that It wasn’t until my late 20s that I did get serious (so you again you do the math once again). I don’t feel like I missed anything because my first SERIOUS relationship was at 27. I certainly wasn’t nor am I lonely. I feel like I have choices and though some people feel like the pickings are slim, again thats never been my reality-figuring out exactly what I wanted, was willing to put up wiht, and could bring to the table was.

“Hugs myself”

I can see that comeback and I am so done with it.

@Mikki: Check your site. I left a comment.
@Comeback: Don’t feed the madness.

please… PLEASE ignore me. ignoring the issues always makes them go away.
SBM, anti or me always bring up a relevant issue with dating… you guys disagree.. and then comeback throws a friggin shit storm when we give feedback…. which usually spirals out of control into a hailstorm of personal attacks about everything (except the issue )
ive yet to see you say “i was wrong” or “Im sorry” to anyone. I was logging on to say “Im sorry comeback for the personal attack on your dating life, that was going low” but umm.. yea fuk that now it was a legal shot and oh so true. Do the math? its still a low number. I have sweaters older than that. wanna impress someone… live together and make eachother happy raise children… you know… all that stuff. but im not trying to compare or compete with you… theres no competition between a 2 year relationship and a decade one…. Im just trying to find out how I am a dating and relationship novice and your so well rounded? Im stupid as nails, Im not good looking, overweight, bad at sports, I spell horrid and am a huge HUGE geek…… but the one thing you totally cant say is im a rookie to this game hun. thats talkin out ya ass there.

mikki: hun we dont see eye to eye on the situation. your looking at it as a woman and I am looking at it as a man. But the women I have showed it to, say you were playing games and trying to pull “rank” (not my words) and see how much you could make a brotha do just to come by and see you. why put people into a test just because you can? is that how we are supposed to treat one another? just answer that.

Im doin this thing all wrong if we are put here to game one another for our own personal amusement. Ive actually been nice to people I meet… and a sweetheart to anyone I date… go figure.

Hasani

why do I think your miss ER? baby is that You?!
CALL ME!!!! wtf!
yeah you guys need to get a grip… one says im concieted… then the next says i need to love myself. then the next says I need to love other women and treat them nice… then the next says I treat them too nice. only people who are consistent here are the fellas… “smash them hoez, have fun.. wrap it up” thats what SBM and anti tell me.
u guys all over the place.. but … as crazy and as zany as you all are your ten times better than the alternative… shudders

@Ms. Devereaux: You are just speaking the truth. There are websites that will let women get text notifications of when and where the ballers will be parting in town. They’ve broken digging down to a science.

It’s called Baller Alert (www.balleralert.com). Here is a black voices article on it:

http://www.blackvoices.com/blogs/2008/03/07/baller-alert-dare-to-snag-a-baller/

Sci - ence. Ballers beware. lol

@HNIC: You did very well. But I can’t help and wonder if what you say about yourself is true. Or do you make this stuff up to keep entertaing us? Either way I am glad you didnt spend alot of money.

@Antidater: Thats some foul shit, I don’t like that website baller alert!! People need to get their own hustle on and stop trying to have someone take care of you. Another thing I don’t like is when men feel the need to tell your what they have…but that might be a blog for my site.

It’s like I always say…The game is grimy but people are grimier.

This is too funny… and she is too funny… I have only seen 1 other video by her… when she was putting some dude on blast… that was hilarious..

But anyway, thanks for your honesty after the video… and I am not sure why she was surprised at the responses… what man wouldnt take a deal like that… even if they were well off and working… sounds like a good gig to me.