“Feed Me, F*ck Me, Shut the F*ck up”
Posted by: SBM in Men, tags: 3 things, chris rock, keeping men happy, Sex
I recently wrote about the two things that women (well … one woman) want, so I only felt it fitting to talk about the 3 things that a guy needs to truly keep him happy. This is according to the great comedian Chris Rock, but I just so happen to agree. So lets examine.
Feed Me
We, as men, enjoy food. We all enjoy different food at different times, but we like to eat. Prime time for a good meal is right when you come home. Your probably tired, have been in traffic for hours, and your stomach is just letting you and the world know that its dinner time. But wait … the hungry man … he can’t cook … and if he can … he probably doesn’t want to.
While this is the least important of the 3, it sure is nice to have your significant other make you a meal. A woman who cooks for her man is a great great woman.
F*ck Me
This doesn’t apply to everyone now. There are guys who just aren’t interested in sex and don’t require it. For the rest of the 99% with working penises … its pretty high on the list. And it can’t be some boring missionary, really quiet, plain ordinary sex. If you want to keep him happy, better be some falling off the bed, moving to the bathroom, back flips, whip cream, put it anywhere, hair pulling type sex.
And also don’t be stingy. If you have a headache, then take some advil. If your neck hurts, get a brace. If your coochy is sore, then give some head.
But really … this is self explanitory.
Shut The F*ck Up
Here is where i get cursed out!
This is the hardest one of the 3, but differentiates the good ones from the great ones. Getting someone to cook a meal for you … really not that hard (although getting harder in these times). Getting sex … well thats the easiest thing. Getting your woman (or even just the woman your sleeping with) to actually be quiet and give you personal time … well … you got a challenge.
I personally love to talk, but damn if I don’t love to have time to myself. Let me watch my game, play my Xbox, play with my computer, or finish up something for my boss before I go to sleep!
So … thats it. 3 things. It’ll keep him happy. I won’t go and say anything asinine like “these 3 things are all I need to be happy”, but I will say that if all of them happen in this order by someone I care for after work … I’ll be happy that night for sure!
June 13th, 2008 at 7:45 am
Sadly enough *holding my head down*, I agree! Plus a 4th one…
My BF personally told me how different I am from the “standard” new millenium chic because:
1. I cook dinner often and a damn good cook @ that!
2. I f*ck his brains out everytime I’m with him - doesn’t matter if I’m knocked out dreaming about Shemar Moore…if it’s three am and he wakes up horny, he knows I’m NOT going to tell him no because i’m a nympho JUST LIKE HIM!!! lol In fact….the only time I get pissed is if he wakes me up and it’s not for some sex!!! Damn shame I know.
3. We are both into sports. So 9 times out of 10…we’re both silent watching the game(s) together or he’s with his buddies and I’m with my girls at a Sports bar!
and….
4. When he’s sick/under the weather… I go totally out of my way to make sure he’s as comfortable as possible. Why? Because he would do the same for me!
June 13th, 2008 at 9:10 am
SBM, the second one you mentioned seems to be at the top of the list for a lot of guys I know.
June 13th, 2008 at 9:11 am
Good morning lovlies..
When I was just a little Comeback Girl and just all around …well rounded…I never thought that I would need to cook. The new millenium woman would go out, scracth around with the standard variations of pastas, steaks etc. But I come from a women who can BURN. My mother’s phone stays rung with ditsy old women who still have no idea how to make a sweet potato pie, jerk chicken (for country folks this is new), or a keep a cake from falling, to be late 50s early 60s THIS IS ASININE….they get esp pissed when she tells them…eartha mae, even MY daughter knows this stuff.
But WHEN you meet a man you really DIG. Some of the new millenium shyt (excuse my french love muffins on this special day) go out the window. A few years ago when I lived in philly…I NEVER EVER EVER THOUGHT. That I would be making biscuits from stracth. I never thought that my azz would be buying baking powder FOR A MAN to make the damn biscuits. I never thought that I would actually make a special trip to a department store to not buy myself something fabulous but to buy a country azz cast iron pot.
So when a man comes along and INSPIRES this IM impressed. Now I have gone on auto-pilot for a few dudes. But if I’m taking out my grandmother’s cookbook…and gonna experiment two days before he comes over…I’m in …well…infactuation. LOL And let me also say some men don’t deserve the pasta that I would boil in my 7 dollar aluminum target pot.
2. that is pretty self-explanatory…and on this historical day, I’ll be a special lady on hiatus. But I do pity the fool when I come off my self-reflective retreat.
3. Shut up???? how exactly is this done LOL…. naw I’m an only kids only kids have perfected the art of finding things to entertain themselves (without “much” talking lol) unless your counting imaginary friends LOL…no they go away at 13.
have a most glorious day friends. I got tons of work to do then IM OFF on a date to watch Mr. Wonka’s Chocolate factory.
June 13th, 2008 at 9:20 am
ROTFLMAO @ Comeback and her being nice today! Love it!
I feel you on number one! I was raised by my grandmother who cooked for us growing up everyday…I always had a full breakfast, lunch and dinner! So when my BF and I got together…he didn’t reap those benefits until I started falling in love with him. It’s amazing how much a woman will do for her man when he’s being “that” man. Word in bond.
June 13th, 2008 at 9:26 am
Amen! SBM. I am surprised about your #1. Glad to see that we are finally on the same page!
@Comeback: Shutting the f*ck up is easy to do:
1) Stop moving lips and close mouth
2) Press lips firmly together
3) Smile
4) Think happy, quiet thoughts
June 13th, 2008 at 9:34 am
@Anitdater…the same goes for men!
June 13th, 2008 at 9:40 am
Exactly Ms Freckles…some men think its a given…hell to the naw (***I mean…No sir***), we eating hot dogs if you asking if I can cook.
June 13th, 2008 at 9:41 am
Anti where do you come from???? I think you just read and roll…but on “leave my ass alone day” …you all in huh?
June 13th, 2008 at 9:42 am
I mean..Anti, the sweet quiet mysterious one with all the mathmatical equations and sexy ROI/ROR charts….you got a scientific calculator by the way ?
June 13th, 2008 at 9:56 am
Well, I agree that those are the 3 things that a man WANTS but those aren’t always the 3 things a man NEEDS (with the exception of sex…men will be men..we can’t change that..lol). A black man doesn’t need a stepping stone. He needs someone that will ring the alarm when his head are in the clouds or let him know that certain things (like disrespect) will not be tolerated (and she doesn’t neccesarily have to be mean about it)!
Sure, it’s MUCH easier for a dude to select a chick that won’t talk back & will agree with EVERYTHING a man says! Since when though was what’s eaiser for us, better?! In fact, (I think most people will agree) as with things we appreciate the most, there’s typical a degree of challenge involved. Think about it, if college degrees were passed out on the street cornor, they wouldn’t have the same weight (because everyone could get them).
The woman that a dude selects is a reflection of himself, we shouldn’t forget that.
P.S. If I’m wrong about this…I guess I’d better start looking for a white dude! Lol
June 13th, 2008 at 9:59 am
LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO @ come back…I’m with u girl @ the hot dogs for dinner! I’m going to EVEN go a step further though and say I can make a sandwich & soup! lmao
June 13th, 2008 at 10:15 am
I agree Mystery…I think the 3’s are a little misleading, least some woman stumbles upon this and thinks this is what it takes to GET & KEEP a man. This is more along the lines of MAINTAINING ….parts of him.
Getting him to be yours (and not yours and someone else’s too) is about making better choices, setting higher standards, and taking that L sometimes too.
Why are we making a man spinach quiche when he only deserves a pig in a blanket on a toothpick. Come on now.
June 13th, 2008 at 10:21 am
True, I agree with Mystery and Comeback. There are much more underlying things that HOLD your man close…
June 13th, 2008 at 10:28 am
Ms. Freckles you should blog about it. I’ll link in to you and offer the pigs in a blanket on a toothpick recipe and pictures.
June 13th, 2008 at 10:28 am
or maybe I should wait to next thursday…for suggestion day.
June 13th, 2008 at 11:11 am
LOL, I just may do that Comeback. Trying to motivate myself to blog today…
June 13th, 2008 at 11:28 am
Ok so I’m unable to remain silent while you ladies ramble on about what a man REALLY needs when two men have clearly stated what men ACTUALLY need. Unfortunately men aren’t as complex as we are and their needs are pretty basic. Yeah they liked to be listened to and also encouraged and supported, but that’s what they want and we all know that we have no problems obliging in that area being the nurturers we are.
But what men need have been laid out over and over again by men, and instead of taking heed to a man’s perspective, you guys have somehow turned it around to what you want to give a man and what you think he DESERVES…lol, it’s all quite comical actually.
Men need to be fed, it’s pretty basic…men love a woman who can cook and in most cases appreciate a warm meal waiting on them. Men love sex, as do most of us, we understand the basic and carnal desire for intercourse…no further explanation needed here. And lastly, they just want us to stop leading their asses to the exit door all the time. Sometimes we should leave well enough alone, let them vent and ramble, not get so defensive and stay chill. Unfortunately as women we feel the need to constantly defend our views and our actions while demanding clarification of theirs…when really all we need to do is fall back and let them express themselves freely. If we don’t like it or feel we aren’t getting what we need, then there’s the exit door. I’m just saying…geesh.
Great Post SBM…maybe one day we will start listening and stop talking.
June 13th, 2008 at 11:33 am
In more honor of peace day I would also like to say to comeback, They just deducted that hard earned $16.95 out of my bank account, so laylah should be here soon. Had I known they was gonna take 50 years to mail it I woulda brought it from the store, but its peace day so im not (That mad)
Can’t wait to listen. Also I had “Let Go” playing in my radio at work today, is that new or old?? I like that jam.
June 13th, 2008 at 11:47 am
Hello, Its so refreshing to read comments and be able to smile as I read. I love peace day!
LOL @ Comeback being nice… you are too funny.
I agree with everyone. My cousins and guy friends would say that these are the basics needs to make a man happy. I mean we all know alot more goes into keeping a relationship together. These things definitely help though. If a relationship could survive simply off this alone, that would be great. But it doesn’t and you can only provide 2 of these things to the men that deserve them. Everyone is worthy for # 1 or #2.
@ Antidater…LMAO!!! at the instructions on Shutting the f*ck up.
June 13th, 2008 at 11:49 am
@Teacia…Hurray you should up! I knew you wouldn’t stay away. But you are exactly correct men are very simple and these are their simple needs.
June 13th, 2008 at 11:52 am
@ Teacia…YEAAAAAAHHHHHH!! *clapping very loud* I knew you would show up!!!
But I agree with you. Men are very simple, this is what they want and need. I was told by one guy that he need consistent cooperation. Meaning he doesn’t need to get attitude from his chick. She can express herself without all the drama and attitude. His friends agreed.
June 13th, 2008 at 11:54 am
Ms. Freckles can you wait to monday…im not in the mood to boil water this weekend or buy toothpicks :)…
Mikki–now i gotta break out my ipod and cue “Let Go”, its getting heavy rotation on some of the adult contemporary stations. I’m a little perplexed as to why the record label is a little slow on delivery (but I bet they counted that sell on soundscan when you hit “buy”). Im sorry about that, buttercup.
“But what men need have been laid out over and over again by men, and instead of taking heed to a man’s perspective, you guys have somehow turned it around to what you want to give a man and what you think he DESERVES…lol, it’s all quite comical actually”
praytell dearest…why is it comical to put your needs ahead of a man’s IN A DATING SITUATION. Since none of us are married, though many of us have been informally and formally engaged..I’ve opted to try something a little different. When I put what I THINK what a man wants ahead of my own needs and desires something is still amiss.
At this point I think I’m special enough for a man to show and prove…for me to weed them out (as Temple suggests) and save the stainless steel cookware for a man who deserves the effort. With cooking comes a certain level of emotion (ever read or see the movie Chocolat) …to me preparing A REAL MEAL is about affection, its about really caring for someone…am I doing that for a man who has not even proven that he can be trusted??? am I doing that to compete with some other chick who just wants to fyck…no those guys get the hotdog
I’m WORTH that much.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:05 pm
@Comeback: SBM’s post never said anything about doing this for random guys, it simply stated that it’s what a man needs…every man by someone. If you want to wait until you’re “inspired”, by all means wait. But once you are, these are the 3 basic things that he needs…it’s as simple as that. And as far as the dating situation goes, I don’t think it’s necessary to put anyone’s needs above another, you should be working toward a joint and desirable situation where both partie’s needs are met…this means compromising and surpressing your needs from time to time for the bigger picture…long term satisfaction over short term gratification if you will.
@Ms. D: There is this dude that I’ve been in a dating battle with since January, he’s all about this consistent cooperation thing and at first I took offense to what he was getting at b/c I will be at no man’s beck and call right…but he has a point. Most men will eventually come around when we start letting it be, and gurl I’m telling you if the head wasn’t FIIIRRRRREEE!!!! Oh my lawd!!!(smashing the exclamation point) I wouldn’t have stuck around to see the evolution of our thing…lol. I guess what I’m trying to say is that it works, letting go and letting the man take the wheel.
Oh and I almost made it, but yall were drifting too far off base for me to continue to read about kitchen dribble…lol.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:07 pm
kitchen dribble ..that was funny…sounds like a scratcher LOL
June 13th, 2008 at 12:08 pm
And not the grilled forman hotdogs eitha, we talking microwave with no water, blow up 10 times big and you get a ketcup packet thats 100 years old from mcdonalds hot dog!!!
June 13th, 2008 at 12:13 pm
Mikki stop being selfish…….hunnie muffin cakes….if you really like a guy your dating HE DESERVES a pot, some water, a half smoke, some potato bread, cut up nicely in 4 quarters, with the little tooth picks that have the frilly plastic on the end, on a really pretty plate.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:14 pm
Again, just as it was pointed out before about “what women need”..that was 1 woman’s view…the opinions that we’ve heard are ONLY reflective of the TWO males that have posted to this topic!! So, I’m not convinced that those are the end all/be all opinions of ALL men!! I’ve actually heard men differienciate between what they WANT & what they NEED. If it were JUST as simple as screwin’, feedin’ him (which there are MANY ways around HIS woman doing the cooking. There are restaurants and chefs that can come to your home), and shuttin’ the fugg up, what woman wouldn’t be married?!!!! It’s MUCH deeper than just that!!!!
June 13th, 2008 at 12:19 pm
lmao!! oh hecks nawl comeback you went to far with the frilly plastic on the end of the toothpick, can we compromise and use the end corner of an envelope to pick the hotdog meat out and call it a day?? no frilly plastic!!!!
oh and napkins from the dollar store no pretty plates.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:20 pm
Uhhhhh….everyone who’s single…because I can guarantee that no one man that we’ve dated has gotten all of that consistently…and if he did, please believe he dropped to one knee at some point. I can honestly say that I don’t cook for guys either unless I’m really feeling them, but I’m trying a new approach this summer…a study if you will. I’m cooking, I’m f@cking and I’m shutting it up…lol. I’ll let you know how it turns out.
Disclaimer: Only one lucky gentlemen will be privy to said experimentation.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:22 pm
“oh and napkins from the dollar store no pretty plates.”
Mikki–I’m all about presentation. You can make a half smoke LOOK good on a pretty plate. I mean we aint tryna be mean…just selective. THENNNNNNN when he’s promoted to “you alright with me” THEN you make it do what it do…insert a whole bunch of kitchen driblle….
June 13th, 2008 at 12:22 pm
lmaooooooooooooooooooooooo @ microwave hotdogs, u know me well!!!!!! I’ma be the FIRST to say that I’m not the best cook nor do I cook often in ANY situation (those days of the stay at home mom that doesn’t work, knits, and cooks meals from scratch are long gone, THANK GOD)! I’m a NEW SCHOOL woman. I own my bank account (which is stable), home, career, bachelors (and will soon have a masters) degree, car, clothes, and shoes! As a result, something has GOT to give (lack behind)! I’m NOT perfect (none of us are)! Cooking is just NOT the top priority in my life (in ANY case)! When would I even have TIME?! So, is it REALLY fair to say that because a woman doesn’t cook, it lessens her chance of landing a GOOD man, SERIOUSLY?!
I’m about MY money & my man needs to be TOO! If it’s that serious we can hire a chef with the good money that we make!
P.S. I know this is a little off topic but it was brought up so I HAVE to address it!
June 13th, 2008 at 12:24 pm
A man that consistantly gets those 3 things, STILL MAY NOT MARRY A WOMAN! I’ve seen that too! Again, if it’s too easy (in the words of MANY men that I know), ” I DON”T WANT IT”!
June 13th, 2008 at 12:29 pm
Yep, but many a man will…and who said it had to be easy. I’m not advocating embracing your inner hoe, just saying that maybe sometimes it shouldn’t be so damn difficult either…i’m just saying.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:30 pm
when he’s promoted to “you alright with me” THEN you make it do what it do…insert a whole bunch of kitchen driblle….
Thats tough but ok, imma try it. As always you drive a hard bargin and will try to sell a blind man sunglasses if you could and get him to buy a couple pair for his friends.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:35 pm
There’s NO challenge to the woman who sits & agrees with EVERYTHING a man says (aka “Shutting up”) & doing as he says (cooking & fuggin’ when he wants)!! I agree, sacrifices should be made on BOTH ends! I’m not saying things have to be difficult. I agree, they DON”T (which is why NO WOMAN should be twisted enough to stop her career, schooling, and speaking her mind, to worry about catering to a man,)! Love it (what I’m about) or leave it, that’s my motto! I can’t stop being me regardless!
June 13th, 2008 at 12:37 pm
If he ends up thinking I’m Emerald from food network with my pretty plates and toothpicks im blaming you.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:40 pm
Mystery..its rather quiet cause I think you got a lot of people thinking including me.
I think you might be on to something…If I’m jumping through circus hoops for a man (which is doubtful in the early phase) 1) I need to make sure that I got MOST of my self-respect in tact 2) I need to know that he is showing and proving too.
Men in some respect are simple. They still like a challenge. They don’t want a roadmap to your heart, I think MOST will NOT tell you that its still very fun for them to learn WITHOUT your just lying down playing dead (or non-selective).
do we really want any old body with a heart beat now? I’m confused.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:41 pm
EXACTLYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY COMEBACK!
June 13th, 2008 at 12:41 pm
Question ladies since you’re all hell bent on kitchen talk(no offense, damn peace day)…what if he cooks for you first.
I met a guy last Wednesday, he invited me out for Friday…to my surprise he had cooked a beautiful meal. Ok background, he’s younger 25ish I think, in the Navy(as most men in Jax are), drives an AMG(i heart that car), 6′3, 215(love it), great sense of humor, from Philly(i don’t really do northerners), a little cocky/arrogant, and easy on the eyes by far…I can honestly say that I’m most definitely attracted to him. We talked Thursday, he invited me to dinner for Friday, we ate and watched…ahhh hell i don’t remember…wait, we watched Forrest Gump…which we all know is long as hell. Afterwards, he walked me out, hugged(and he didn’t let go first)…and I went home.
Anyhow, if and when I invite him over, should I prepare dinner also…I’m not smitten with him at this point, we haven’t and probably won’t sleep together for some time, but I’m curious as to what the readers of SBM.net thinks about the evolution of said situation…should I throw down in the kitchen as a gesture of gratitude or should he be forced to wait until he’s my man?
June 13th, 2008 at 12:43 pm
I know it’s quoted a lot but it’s because it’s true…WHY BUY THE COW WHEN U CAN GET THE MILK & EVERYTHING ELSE FOR FREE?!!!
June 13th, 2008 at 12:46 pm
Ok what EXACTLY did he make????
he coulda ordered take out and said he cooked it!!! I did that before!!!
June 13th, 2008 at 12:46 pm
Sure Teacia, cook for him…if he’s givin’ you just as much as you are puttin’ it out there for him, why not
My point is (just in general) that there’s a fine line between losing your self in loving a man and doing what (within reason) please him AND YOU!
June 13th, 2008 at 12:46 pm
Yall are making too much of nothing…really. I was once told by an ex that I need to learn to start free-falling through relationships b/c I too adopted your way of thinking(i.e. overthinking) and was getting frustrated at the way all of said courtships were ending. It wasn’t until I started free-falling my way through and just going with what felt right for the situation did my prospect’s desire to stick around increase and DRASTICALLY…and now I’m in the driver’s seat with the right and freedom to choose.
You’re going to think your way out of a man with all of this thought going on here…the key is learning to just live and let be and as long as you keep your integrity intact the man will have no choice but to love and respect you.
….just a thought…i’m out ladies…i don’t know if i can stay nice for much longer…this has to be some of record for me.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:48 pm
lmaoooooooooooooooooooooooo @ MIkki, right…shoot, that was one of my points…WHO ON GOD”S GREEN EARTH SAID THAT THE GIRLFRIEND/WIFE HAD TO COOK?!!!!!!! YES, MEN LIKE TO EAT…ACTUALLY, IT”S A FACT, THEY MUST (LIKE US) TO LIVE! But I’ve NEVER read where the girl/wifey IS REQUIRED TO DO SO..why can’t the chef or Red LObster do it?!!!!!!
June 13th, 2008 at 12:50 pm
Acutually, they call them butlers (the people that cook in your home)..i was using the wrong term, sorry..lol
June 13th, 2008 at 12:51 pm
I am with mystery gal and comeback, He not privy to my special chicken alacarte meal if we just met. no way can he earn the “you alright with me” status on a first date, iont care what he did. That could be game!!
I must be skeptical or scorn which is it.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:53 pm
“You’re going to think your way out of a man with all of this thought going on here…the key is learning to just live and let be and as long as you keep your integrity intact the man will have no choice but to love and respect you.”
To me there isn’t much thought in a) am I getting what I’m giving b) do I feel great enough about myself that I’m not comprising my needs for just having a warm body to take me to Tara Thai.
two very simple questions…its not rocket science. Really.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:53 pm
Nope, he cooked, I got there as he was finishing it up. It was pretty basic and simple, but the gesture is what mattered the most to me…it didn’t hurt that his crib was laid and setting was perfect for a dinner for two.
He made a shrimp scampi with linguini…I told him that I love seafood the night before b/c I thought he needed a little guidance picking out a restaurant…a nice gesture indeed. Date 2 is tonight…we’ll see what he has up his sleeve this time…we’re going out though, so it should be interesting.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:53 pm
Hey, you can be out there willy nilly trusting everyone..it’s earned..not given automatically!
June 13th, 2008 at 12:55 pm
@ Mikki
June 13th, 2008 at 12:57 pm
You aint lyin mystery girl, See I listen to you sometimes lol
June 13th, 2008 at 12:58 pm
“I met a guy last Wednesday, he invited me out for Friday…to my surprise he had cooked a beautiful meal. Ok background, he’s younger 25ish I think, in the Navy(as most men in Jax are), drives an AMG(i heart that car), 6′3, 215(love it), great sense of humor, from Philly(i don’t really do northerners), a little cocky/arrogant, and easy on the eyes by far…I can honestly say that I’m most definitely attracted to him. We talked Thursday, he invited me to dinner for Friday, we ate and watched…ahhh hell i don’t remember…wait, we watched Forrest Gump…which we all know is long as hell. Afterwards, he walked me out, hugged(and he didn’t let go first)…and I went home.”
foul on the play…he did not invite you “out” on the first date…he invited you to “his house”. Big difference.
June 13th, 2008 at 12:59 pm
and where was the second date? my code cracking and my sunny shades do not work well together?
June 13th, 2008 at 1:00 pm
Yeah, SOMETIME you do @ Mikki…except for that women need 2 things comment..lmaooooooooo..j/k bestie
June 13th, 2008 at 1:00 pm
lmao @ foul on the play
ROTFLMAO
June 13th, 2008 at 1:05 pm
LOL Mystery gal, aye you live and i’m fasho learning thats why you gotta have my back!!
June 13th, 2008 at 1:08 pm
Lol..FOR SURE & ALWAYS! And I took my halo off for a min. (that’s why that comment slipped out). It’s back on now in honor of peace blogger day!
June 13th, 2008 at 1:10 pm
“lmao @ foul on the play
ROTFLMAO”
double foul ….I can’t have a whistle and wear blog glasses.
June 13th, 2008 at 1:14 pm
@Teacia…if and when you invite him over, its nothing wrong with cooking for him. If that what you want to do. Don’t do it simply because he did it for you. Then it’s not geniue. I say if you feel like it cool. If I was him I wouldn’t have let you come to my place on the first date. But I am weird like that i don’t like letting people know where I stay.
@ Comeback… what are you talking about…foul play?
June 13th, 2008 at 1:15 pm
Yea umm I know its peace day and all this jazz but Teacia has to get code cracked and goggles sunny shaded on too!! shit I had to this the new age hazing!!!
“love you peace day”
June 13th, 2008 at 1:16 pm
lmao @ Ms Dev she got dead bolt’s on her doors.
“fell out chair again”
June 13th, 2008 at 1:22 pm
See, I kinda felt like that at first about letting people know where u live. And I don’t let just ol’ anyone at my crib still but in either case, I feel more comfy with my bestfriend Nina (Mikki don’t get jealous)…lmaooooo
June 13th, 2008 at 1:23 pm
Ok comeback seriously this is the second time today I listen to “let it go” and I am really feeling it!! but these speakers its playing from is wack and the sound quality totally sucks and I really want to turn it up!! sadly I have nothing to blast it on when I get home either. I think On suggestion day Thursdays I am going to suggest we start a “Mikki needs a real stereo fund” all in favor say ” I “
June 13th, 2008 at 1:23 pm
Neigh @ MIkki
June 13th, 2008 at 1:25 pm
lmao mystery girl I thought I was # 1 !!! what happen? where did I go wrong!! sike nawl I feel you Neigh got rank all day err day!!
June 13th, 2008 at 1:26 pm
I’m still pushin’ for… someone u r dating has an std (unknown to you) until he tells you after the two of you have grown close. How do u respond?
June 13th, 2008 at 1:28 pm
Girl, ONLY because if we donate to your fund..we gonna have to do it for EV’RYYYYYYYYYBODYYYYYYYy! That’s a lot of money bein’ donated (cause I”ma be ask for an Aston Martin car)!!!!!!! LOL
June 13th, 2008 at 1:29 pm
Mystery girl I think there is a list for suggestion Thursdays now take a number!! move to the back of the line lol
sike nawl I think we got off topic what happen to them pigs in a blanket ?? comeback you making em?? I don’t hear no pots n pans russling.
June 13th, 2008 at 1:31 pm
lmaooooooooo..we r ALWAYS off topic, from what I can tell…so, what’s new?! And Mikki, I was FIRST in line with my suggestion cause I asked about it bein’ posted over the weekend…so there! lol
June 13th, 2008 at 1:31 pm
“@ Comeback… what are you talking about…foul play?”
FOUL ON the play (usually accompanied with a whistle)….like in basketball ???? like if Kobe got the ball and somebody comes up and pushes him hard like not nice hard…like peace on blog day hard..that would be a personal foul on the play.
I’m just reading between the lines..with my blog goggles on I don’t know if the first date was at his house or not..I just assumed and everybody is co-signing. I need clarfication..first date?? second date??? goes back to if a man really digs you he is making EFFORT. You aren’t driving distances, bringing flowers and cupcakes on d1.
June 13th, 2008 at 1:32 pm
And unless someone is cookin’ & shippin’…I’m need ya’ll to lay off that part of the convo cause I’m gettin’ HUNGRY!!!!!!
June 13th, 2008 at 1:34 pm
And hey..I was post number 69..not a bad number…lmaoooooo
June 13th, 2008 at 1:34 pm
***cuing up the ipod again..the song is bad..but wait to get passed the first…you gonna be crying in your cheeros. LOL
June 13th, 2008 at 1:35 pm
Ms. Freckles.. since you the one with the longterm man…can you please write the post. I do feel inspired to buy some half smokes now lol
June 13th, 2008 at 1:35 pm
sorry mystery..im gone
June 13th, 2008 at 1:35 pm
Thats what im saying mystery gal where is the dang blad food!!!
June 13th, 2008 at 1:36 pm
lmao..c-ya comeback..i’m about 2 b off to dreamland anyway
June 13th, 2008 at 1:37 pm
Thinking *Peace Day officially Over* LMAO
I do personally believe a WIFE’s place is to make sure she is the care giver of the marriage and the husband is the head of the household. Meaning…a wife should have dinner on the table for her man and children 5 out of a 7 day week (don’t get it twisted, it’s nice and ok for a man to return the favor) but lets stop with the Women are INDEPENDENT this and that. ME PERSONALLY… do plan on making sure my husband and children are well fed! lol
I know I done started something now…lol
June 13th, 2008 at 1:38 pm
@ Comeback… ok well maybe Teacia can clear things up for us.
June 13th, 2008 at 1:38 pm
Girl, my moma made me some french toast & turkey bacon this late this morn. There was 1 piece left & some bacon. I had my mouth set for some…and my bro. has eaten it…:(
June 13th, 2008 at 1:38 pm
P.S. - I will definitely get in detail on my post Monday!!!
June 13th, 2008 at 1:43 pm
Being raised by a non-working grandmother…
I was raised having 3 complete meals a day. There was no microwave in my home growing up until I was a teenager. That’s how much my grandmother cooked. It’s now in my nature to cook —and I enjoy it more so when I’m doing it for others, whether it is my man, family, friends or an event. Some of these women in 2008 are killing me with the I can work and bring home a 6 figure check but couldn’t make my man a peanut butter and jelly sandwich correctly if they had instructions in front of them. It’s like ya’ll think it makes you less of a woman to cook for YOURSELF and your spouse/mate/whomever. Granted, not everyone can make a cake from scratch or boil potatoes…but let’s TRY to do better ladies. Not for men..but for yourself.
June 13th, 2008 at 1:44 pm
Dang mystery gal thats wack, yall can’t leave i still got an hour left to go at work!!
mystery gal how about we get you a volkswagen and say is an austin martin that will be much cheaper, I will even ask comeback if you can borrow her sunny shades so you can feel better bout it.
June 13th, 2008 at 1:46 pm
I’m HAPPY with my P & J & truth be told, I can hire a butler to do the rest, in the event that I so desire! I can ALWAYS learn to cook (I can CERTAINLY read) but EVERYONE can’t make 6 figures! I’m sick with makin’ my dough!
June 13th, 2008 at 1:46 pm
lmao @ mikki…it’s not quite the same!
June 13th, 2008 at 1:47 pm
Ms Freckels I think we was only speaking in reference to 1st dates on that, we didn’t say we couldn’t do it, we just said he gotta earn it. But until then its hot dogs/or half smokes since comeback insist on being fancy ALL THE TIME!
June 13th, 2008 at 1:48 pm
As the times change, so MUST we! The only that’s certain is CHANGE!
June 13th, 2008 at 1:50 pm
Right Mikki!
I have cooked for a dude before but not very often. Bottom line is…at the end of the day u can’t be both a workin woman (with a WONDERFUL career & good money) & a house wife. YOU & ONLY YOU have to pick what’s best for you w/o lookin’ down at someone else for their choice!
June 13th, 2008 at 1:51 pm
There are ONLY 24 hours in a day!
June 13th, 2008 at 1:51 pm
Ms Freckles what about ramen noddles?? you know they come in like 100 different flavors now…
I’m just sayin I will even put a half smoke in it just to apease him
thats love right chea!!
June 13th, 2008 at 1:55 pm
LMAO @ Mikki’s ramen noodles….
June 13th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
Okay…first dates & cooking….depends on the guy and what the background/history is. I’ve cooked on a first date but the guy was a friend before he was a love interest. So it was better to cook dinner and make it a blockbuster night in over candle-light dinner versus going out in a snow storm trying to find somewhere to eat then go afterwards.
June 13th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
Mikki, I got a letter for that physical edu. teaching job with the state…:(…they told me that I’m elem. edu. degree (even though I’m certified for physical edu. as well) won’t cut it! I mad at you bestie..you couldn’t have put in a good word (geesh)?! lol
June 13th, 2008 at 1:58 pm
*from, rather
June 13th, 2008 at 1:59 pm
Ok, I’m way off topic now..I’m just sleepy…I’ve been TRYING to hang in there with u Mikki but you’re almost off..ttyl
June 13th, 2008 at 1:59 pm
Right Ms Freckles but Tecia was speaking in sound bites and she did’t say where ole boy came from which I agree that is an all together situation IF thats the case, we was trying to get some clerification but she Dipped out on us early.
June 13th, 2008 at 2:00 pm
My blog goggles are off Ms. Freckles…and I agree more than not. My sticking point (and I think we are on the same page) is that a MAN EARNS all that grandma and my mother taught me. And there have been a couple. The rest get half smoke delights…I do also agree that women do need to learn how to COOK (and not scratchin around with pasta varieties). cooking with practice leads to burning. its a life skill. And sometimes you just feel like really doing something FOR YOURSELF (leaving out the kitchen dribble). Thats major.
I ALSO WILL BE THE queen in my castle. My main ambition and I’ve said it before. Is to get financially automated so that I can be the best mother and wife I can possibly be. And thereby if I defer to you (and I don’t have an issue with this) until you lead me down to hell…then I GET off the titanic ….RUN THIS. But deference is earned to. You don’t defer to men who can’t even run themselves, their life, their pocketbook, their outlook, their career and life goals.
June 13th, 2008 at 2:01 pm
Ok girl get cha nap on I am good.
lmao you didn’t tell me to put a word in!!!!
smh
June 13th, 2008 at 2:02 pm
Ok Mikki, ttyl.
June 13th, 2008 at 2:04 pm
Comeback…exactly! A women shouldn’t marry a man she can’t allow to be the head anyhow! Meaning, she shoudl trust her husband enough to know that he will take care of her and home.
June 13th, 2008 at 2:04 pm
*should
June 13th, 2008 at 2:04 pm
** To add**
You don’t defer to men who can’t even run themselves, their life, their pocketbook, their outlook, their career and life goals.
Or their own pots and pans!!
June 13th, 2008 at 2:07 pm
I mean kitchen dribble
June 13th, 2008 at 2:08 pm
My office is DRAINING ME!!!! SOMEONE HELP!!!!
It’s Friday…Close of Business should be NOW!
June 13th, 2008 at 2:10 pm
Ok, so there’s nothing to clear up…he invited me “out” on a first date…his house was near where we “supposed” to be going…he called and said that he hadn’t left while I was on my way and asked if I minded stopping by for a sec. Now I wasn’t born yesterday, so I know what most men say when they say stop by for a minute…I had my mace ready, but when he opened the door and I smelled fresh garlic I lit up. He actually put forth more effort than opening up his wallet would have been.
Now some could say that it was game, no big deal to me, cause I have plenty where that comes from. I enjoyed our “date” and I’m not letting any of you heifers ruin my perfect date night last Friday, a man cooking shows plenty of effort, roses, chocolate and all that other bull is cliche and any man can do it by stopping at his local Walgreens and for cheap…no effort needed, it’s a bit overrated in my opinion…date 2 is tonight as I stated above…if you take those damn goggles off you would be able to follow.
What’s funny is that you missed all the great things in above mentioned paragraph to focus on the fact that he didn’t get in car and drive anywhere…lol…ain’t shit wrong with my legs, i can drive as well. None of the details as to how I ended up at his house should matter, the man had a nice and romantic evening planned, where we ate, actually talked and watched a classic movie…w/o the masses all up in our shit. And the fact that he trusted my character enough to feel comfortable with knowing where he lives also is another plus. I only see the good folks…I’ve played by the dating rules for the last 2 or so years and it’s gotten me nowhere…I’m free-falling through this bitch from now on like I used to…anyone joining me?
I told yall I couldn’t do this peace shit day…damn.
June 13th, 2008 at 2:11 pm
Note to SBM…please don’t write another blog mentioning food or kitchen appliances.
June 13th, 2008 at 2:13 pm
@Ms. D: I think I may return the favor if our next few dates are favorable, he’s a genuinely nice guy, raised right and I have nothing to lose other than a meal…besides I live in a gated community next door to a cop…I think I’m good if he goes all stalker on me afterwards.
June 13th, 2008 at 2:18 pm
Teacia…that date sounds niiiiice. Get it girl!
June 13th, 2008 at 2:59 pm
“Ok, so there’s nothing to clear up…he invited me “out” on a first date…his house was near where we “supposed” to be going…he called and said that he hadn’t left while I was on my way and asked if I minded stopping by for a sec”…
okay girl don’t get your elle macpherson intimates in a bind…***blowing whistle*** reverse decision on the personal foul. They aren’t really rules. I’m not forcing my beliefs down nobody’s throut it ultimately is about what is working for you. If its working….WORK IT. I hope you have fun tonight.
June 13th, 2008 at 3:20 pm
@ Teacia… I am with you. I think that was a great date. He showed you alot about his character in that first date. That is why I say if you feel like cooking for him go ahead. Hey at the end of the it is what it is. Just enjoy the ride and have fun.
June 13th, 2008 at 3:51 pm
ok now my day is offically over Tim Russert (Meet The Press) just died.
June 13th, 2008 at 3:54 pm
@Comeback: GTFOH!!!! Tim Russert did not just die….oh my goodness. Okay so I just went to CNN…wow, no more Meet The Press on Sundays….OH NO!!!!!
Wow he was definitely one of the best (political)news commentators out there!!
June 13th, 2008 at 3:55 pm
one of my college professors most talked about media icons…. Tim RUssert and edward R murrow along with katie Curric..
June 13th, 2008 at 3:56 pm
ok now my day is offically over Tim Russert (Meet The Press) just died… Damn that sucks!!!
June 13th, 2008 at 4:02 pm
Yea Ms Dev that is so wack Tim was the man, thats the only news show I faithfully watched!!!!
what am I gonna do lawd!!!
June 13th, 2008 at 4:05 pm
Ms. Freckles says:
June 13th, 2008 at 2:04 pm
Comeback…exactly! A women shouldn’t marry a man she can’t allow to be the head anyhow! Meaning, she shoudl trust her husband enough to know that he will take care of her and home.
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you guys still dont get it? a man shouldnt HAVE TO run your house. a man should be the person who cumforts and completes your heart and warms your soul. sounds hallmark to some of you money grubing types, but its so true. My college buddy and captain of my wrestling team has recently gotten married. He just joined a lawfirm so comming from Columbia law you can imagine he is pulling in quite alot of cash. He comes home and cooks because his wife would burn ranmen noodles if she tried, besides he loves to cook. She dosent clean heavy… just minor mopin and picking up clothes… but he mops and he dusts and he moves couches andbeds to clean under them… as you can imagine he is very anal and a neat freek!! and obviously he handles all the finances and pays the bills out of their joint checking. But when I asked him the other day hows life, the first thing he says to me is he cant imagine life without her and she makes everyday he wakes up worth it. so on the outside it looks like she dosent “pull her weight” but she makes him feel like he can conquor the world eventhough she hasnt exactly set the world on fire herself. he is more happy than anyone i know, and she is equally as happy… so who am I to knock it… I praise them and thank god for putting them together.
June 13th, 2008 at 4:11 pm
oh word… R kely got off!
am I the only person in america who hasnt seen the video? anyone know where I can watch it online or download it?
June 13th, 2008 at 4:23 pm
He was young too. I’m bummed. I dunno who can replace him..everybody fit just right in their little characters John, Tim, Wolf, Anderson…there will be a void…
Hasani–who steers the ship then ????? see you need to learn your role. Stay in your lane. You want somebody to boss you around, bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and manage the family finances in quicken ???
Stay in your lane please. there are plenty of women who are ready willing and able. But let the women who know where they are tryna be…let them be there.
June 13th, 2008 at 5:16 pm
Ya’ll can’t stay remotely on topic to save your lives. Meet the Press?!?!?!?
@Teacia, Ms. D, Ms. Freckles: While to different degrees, ya’ll seem capable of holding and keeping a man. Its a nice mixture of “Umma do me” along with “Let me serve you”. Your not getting run over, but everything is not a race and some super huge competition.
@Teacia: Thank you for realizing I was talking about some things we need, not what we deserve and all that other “Waiting to Exhale” type stuff.
@Comeback, Mystery Girl, & Mikki: I’m sorry … but ya’ll gonna be lonely for a long time. There was just something extremely disturbing as I read your comments today. Maybe its cause I’m sick again, maybe its because the motorcycle ride into work had my whole shirt soaked in sweat from the 90 degree heat, but damn if it didn’t make me curl up my lip and say “ugh”. I’ll go into detail about why later, its quittin time now!
June 13th, 2008 at 5:30 pm
Well I didn’t think I was lonely??? but I guess that would be some men’s rationale to get women to continue to jump through a circus hoop. Ms Freckles is saying something a little different by the way. She is in a RELATIONSHIP which sounds rather COMMITTED. This is different, most women would go out of their way to please THEIR MAN.
not Rebecca’s man on saturday, Tasha’s man on Friday night, Stephanie’s man during the week.
Stop lying to these women please.
And take Ms. Freckles out of the catagory.
later… my lonley ass has a date I need pretty it up for.
June 13th, 2008 at 5:31 pm
COMOEBACK DARLING: theres one topic I donot think alt f you candebate with me about… and thats HOW A HOUSEHOLD WORKS I wont try and coach you guys on hair products, how to braid hair, how to raise a daughter because I dont have experience in those fields.
Im a moron when it comes to alot of things, and Im not the most versed person on current hiphop and “black trends”
but theres one thing none of you “singles”can touch me on and thats livin with someone, loving long term and building a household.
or did you forget whome you are talking to? Im not joe thug or shareef hood… IM the HNIC.