Male Birth Control: Sign me up!
Posted by: SBM in Sex, tags: birth control, condoms, male contraceptive, the pillAfter 20 years of research … we are finally approaching a effective male contraceptive (condom doesn’t count).
Personally … I am all for it. I welcome it with open arms and damned if I wouldn’t sign up for the trial if I could.
A little background:
After reading about it here and here, I have found out the basics. Apparently there are a couple of options. There is a gel you can use, a pill you can take, an injection, and an implant. The side effects seem to be pretty minimal, and they are having great success. The implant is supposed to be the first to market … and it all looks good.
I was talking to someone about this … a woman … and she told me “Men are too lazy to take control of their own birth control. I don’t like taking a pill everyday … and I know ya’ll [lazy ass n***s] ain’t gonna do it!”. Uh … who has been the one carrying condoms in their back pockets for the last 100 years? The duty of finding and putting on a condom has generally remained the burden of the man trying to have sex … so whats so different about a little implant a shot every once in awhile.
I have publicly stated that my #2 fear in life (might be #3 … something) is getting the wrong person pregnant at the wrong time. So … if there is something I can do to help prevent that (the potential increase in condom less sex is just an added benefit) … again … I am all for it.
Now, this could be a touchy subject for some. Contraception (besides condoms) has only been available for women for … well … ever since it was available period. Besides a thin sheet of latex, we as men haven’t had anything to protect us besides prayer and the classic “pull out”. I already hear the one guy saying “I ain’t taking no pill or nothing! F*ck that!” or “What you mean I’m not gonna make sperm! F*ck that!”. Or, are you gonna get the teenage son asking dad “can you get me the pill?”. How does dad respond (”way to go son” comes to mind)?
So … is contraception a female’s responsibility? Is the condom the only thing a man has to worry about? Is this doomed to failure? Is this possibly one of the greatest inventions of my lifetime?
Family … what do you say?
June 30th, 2008 at 6:09 am
I think this is a good idea to help prevent pregnancy, but I think many men (young and old alike) will be very cautious in trying out this new method. However, this should not be an excuse to not use condoms, because one can still catch an STD or HIV/AIDS on the pill.
June 30th, 2008 at 6:45 am
This will make alot of tryfe women VERY upset, but I bet you the divorce rate wil instantly come down 7% within the first 3 years.
I myself would not be cautious about a pill that is birth control…. thats like saying Im not gonna take Plavix because it may NOT prevent my heart attack.
please none of you anarchist types… dont post your million and seven reasons why this would be a bad idea just for the sake of causing chaos… this is so such a fantastic thing.
June 30th, 2008 at 7:06 am
Honestly speaking… I think it’s both parties responsibility to take the necessary pre-cautions to not get pregnant or even worse catch a disease. I do however think there will be a higher STD rate because teen boys will substitute “safety” with a pill that doesn’t protect you from STD’s. I’ve been screaming for years that men should have birth control pills for them so we women don’t have to be the only ones to worry about the swollen/tender breast, mood swings, severe nausea and every other hormone changes the pill gives you.
June 30th, 2008 at 7:10 am
@HNIC… kneegrow, you have got to be one of the most “negative” people to comment and blog this early in the freaking morning (lol). Out of everything you could have said about the “male pill”… you chime in talking about triffling women. Guess what? There are triffling MEN too! I can’t tell you how many dudes have told me in the past that they would love for me to have their baby…and a sistah made sure she kept her jeans on extra tight after those comments! lmao.
Let’s not be so one-sided Hasani.
June 30th, 2008 at 7:15 am
Personally, I think it’s a woman’s responsibility. Ultimately, she’s the one who, if caught up in a dead beat relationship, will end up with a dead beat father to her child. If she doesn’t want that to happen, dont’ wait for the man to pull out the latex, come prepared on your own.
Sure a male condom will protect against unwanted children, but what about unwanted diseases? For some reason, I see this as a reason eventually the STD rate will rise. Although nothing is 100% effective against STD, I think this would be good for those who want to double up and kill two birds with one stone.
Protect ya neck (C) ODB.
June 30th, 2008 at 7:29 am
OK… how many people do you know who get pregnant because the man wanted to keep the woman he was sleeping with…. he liked her… but she was sleeping with him but didnt really like him…. and he decided to poke a hole in her diaphram/switch her birth control pill/ tell her “its ok, Im pulling out, you dont have to take the pill”
find me two of those… please… cuz I know none. yes we all know SOMEONE is going to come up with one situation they heard of… “omg my uncles cousins former room mate used to do that all the time” but come on now.. really….
I can be one sides, this is a post about male contraceptive not contraceptive in general…. its one sided to BEGIN with lol.
June 30th, 2008 at 7:38 am
STD? cop out!
are people eating worse now than 7 years ago or better? cuz last I checked people are eating better.. whens the last time you ate soulfood 4 days in a row?
because we now have plavix… so because there is a cure for your heart disease.. based on your theory shouldnt we all be eating buttermilk pancakes fried in crisco with extra rich butter for breakfast and fedduchinni alfredo with bacon for dinner?
“hey dude… give me another side of bacon.. fuk it ill just take plavix later…. actually fuk it, just give me the whole bottle of wesson oil as a chaser”
June 30th, 2008 at 8:04 am
Side story thats kinda related.
I been talkin to SBM about the girl upstairs from me. Shes 26 and has 3 children an seperate fathers.
now on a side note, she is a point of comedy because she is ALWAYS comming up with things that break in her house or computer to get me to “come up and check on thangs” which I always find hilarious.
OK anyway, over the winter she gets in an argument with the man she is seeing so she wants my phone to call him.. since he is not responding to her phonecalls.
May, she informs me she that she is pregnant. I look at her kids running around the the outside of my window making noise and pegin to take out my soapbox to preach to her, since the situation wont help anyone. here are a list of exscuses she gave me as to why she dosent use birthcontrol
“condoms smell bad and turn me off” (obviously you dont have a problem getting turned on)
“The shot isnt effective, thats how i had my first baby remember….”
“The pill makes me fat….”
“the implant is dangerous”
“I cant get my tupes tied… what if I meet a husband and he wants to have children and leaves me because I cant have a baby for him”
ya She went thru them all. I finally get her to agree to get an abortion and offered to help pay. The next day she agrees, at which time I pull my offer to pay (simp eh?) I personaly TAKE HER to the abortion clinic 4 towns away so nobody sees. She goes in… thank god its done … right?
She informs me that she took a birthcontrol test just “to make sure” she wasnt pregnant. I thought it was odd she tells me this I thought abortions were 100% final but .. ok. she says shes not pregnant the month after.
The other day she comes over and informs me she didnt get her period and shes still pregnant. Pregnanat again? I ask
“No it musta not worked… ima call the clinic and cus them out” “it must be gods plan and stuff like you always talk about… right?”
I mean.. seriously, this is why I have gone for a vasectomy at 30 years old and thats why I use a condom and use gel spermacide and throw away my own condom… EVERY time im sleeping with the person I sleep with.
being negligent is not only bad for you its bad for the child. kids need BOTH parents and having a child just because you are too fukin stupid to use birth control is unacceptable
June 30th, 2008 at 8:06 am
I think there are pro’s and cons to this. On one hand it will allow men to take more control of their future fathering possibilities, but it will also encourage a lot of young and irresponsible men to have unprotected sex knowing having a baby is out of the question. I know it goes both ways, the woman should be the advocate for safe sex as well, but the reality is young girls and boys are not as serious about safe sex as they should be.
As a matter of fact I am sure the STD rates would go up…ladies how many times have you been about to get busy with your guy, and he asked are you taking anything and you flatly state NO and this negro STILL wants to have unprotected sex and exclaims he will pull out and then doesn’t b/c it just feels too damn good…and the next thing you know you’re either heading to Walgreens for the morning after pill or making your 6 week check-up appt for an ultrasound.
The reality is that both men and women are irresponsible. Men may not poke holes in diaphrams to keep chics around, but they are also knowingly irresponsible at times. But I think this is a good idea, I think men do need to feel empowered with something as important as controlling who they procreate with. I welcome it, because I don’t like taking birth control pills 365 days/year…some days I just plainly forget. And I don’t like getting stuck with a needle every 3 months since it causes me to retain water and gain weight, and I don’t like sticking a patch to my body which leaves an adhesive mark on my skin that is damn near impossible to get off no matter how hard I scrub, and I don’t like to insert a foam 15 minutes before sex b/c it’s just too damn messy, and I don’t like walking around with a plastic ring in my body that releases hormones and causes cramping and sometimes even bleeding.
So I’m ALL for it. Do I think men will step up and actually stick with it, in most cases absolutely NOT. I don’t know a man that can keep a doctors appt every 4 weeks to get poked with hormones, I don’t know a man that will remember to take a pill 365 days a year, I don’t know a man who will let you get close to their Johnson to insert something under their skin to stop sperm from forming. Yeah men have walked around with condoms in their back pockets since forever but that takes NO real effort, there is no sterlization required, there are no painful needles, there’s no pill despenser that you have to use at the same EXACT time every day…all it takes it a simple trip to the local corner store or gas station and you’re set. Again I think it’s a good idea, a bit unrealistic, yeah men will jump on board in the beginning but I have no faith in their consistency.
June 30th, 2008 at 8:15 am
Hasani I actually agree with you, I don’t understand why/how women would continue to have kid after kid with no stability in the home. I had my daughter and vowed that I would never have another unless I was either married or rich and just wanted another kid. Having/raising a child is difficult, even when both parents are involved and money isn’t an issue. I can’t understand for the life of me why women would continue to have children in situations that aren’t condusive to raising children. I know a chic who’s 22 and is pregnant with her 3rd child, she’s barley making ends meet as it is, but saw no problem in having this 3rd child…*sighing*…it’s happening all around us.
And that chic didn’t go through with the abortion, they are 100%, there’s no fetus or embryo left when they’re done…there’s no possible way she could STILL be pregnant unless she just sat there and couldn’t go through with it.
June 30th, 2008 at 8:16 am
Hasani again sounds like a crazy fool. Vasectomy????
I have scientific reasonings that I would NOT want my man taking the pill. And they are hormonal. I do believe that men get their own periods anyway…and the regulation of testosterone (to my regulation of estrogen on the pill) I think would cause serious serious problems…don’t steriods do the converse of what the pill would do?
June 30th, 2008 at 8:22 am
Yeah Comeback apparently they have to get testosterone shots every 4-6 weeks to regulate their levels…again I don’t know a man who would subject himself to that.
June 30th, 2008 at 8:55 am
“Yeah Comeback apparently they have to get testosterone shots every 4-6 weeks to regulate their levels…again I don’t know a man who would subject himself to that.”
I think it would make our beloved here a crying emotional SIMP.
June 30th, 2008 at 9:04 am
Im a fool for making a conscious decision but none of the other people on here who got knocked up are fools because they dont have a Y chromosome?
I think you have that backwards comeback, your desire to argue with me is blinding you a tad bit this morning. I dont want to fight with you… ever, and much less about an issue not important to you since you wont accept my offer for a date.
If we do date and you do become turned off by the fact… then there is STILL fertilization clinics. science has come a long way.
Dont worry out super lawyer child/ civil rights activist from our combined genetics is still a viable option my darling nemesis
June 30th, 2008 at 9:09 am
If you’re sexually responsible why would you need to have a vasectomy?? wasn’t it you who said you don’t even have a sex drive?? So did you do it for your barbie dolls?? The decision isn’t for a young man in a “committed relationship” with you dear 10 year. The procedure can be reversed …so unless you had it at the local 7 eleven, what are you talking about fertilization clinics for?
June 30th, 2008 at 9:17 am
Hasani are you trying to call me a fool b/c I have a kid?…lol.
So me not being a fool would have been to abort her right…no that would have made me selfish. There are tons of chics/men who would have kids if abortions were not an option. Neither he nor I were drugged when we DECIDED to procreate, there was no heat of the moment, there was no faulty birth control…we were naive, we thought that we wanted to be with one another and we knew that our child would be destined for greatness because of the capablities of her parents. Our shit didn’t work out, but the fact remains that she will play a major role in this world.
My house is quiet this morning b/c my daughter is away spending the summer with her dad, and this topic made me think about my life and if I would want it any different…and you know what Hasani, brilliant child aside I couldn’t picture a better path for my life. It’s because of my child that I care about the future of your unborn children. It’s because of my child I am motivated to help those who don’t have responsible parent caring for them. It’s because of the love I recieve from my child that I carry with pride the burden to make this world a better one for her and her children.
So Sani baby, if that makes me a fool…I’ll be that for you. And I’ll be it with no hesitation or resentment.
June 30th, 2008 at 9:39 am
Teacia Im not calling “YOU” a fool. Im trying to figure out why Im a fool in combacks eyes for being responsible yet theres others out here getting knocked up and they are not called fools by her.
we could debate all day about why someone has a child in the wrong situation. Take whatever path you deem necessary I and my supposedly “uppity” moral set dont have to condone it. if you cant live together for 5 years how can you expect to raise a child together for the next 30 after that? My parents were together for 15 years before they decided to have a child. get married because you love someone… no matter what age. but dont drag a child into your situation until you know you BOTH and provide, care for and shelter it together. yes we all are black and know shit dont work out all the time… but at least start off with the proper foundation. As for you, I wish the best for your G&T program destined “whos who all africanl american”/ w.e.b dobois scholar. but even you have to admit.. as much as you like to disagree with me…
that the situation wouldnt be more optimal if you and baby father had had her inside of a loving co-opertive relationship and raised her with dual supervision in the same household.
Why raise a King when you can raise an Emperor? - Earl woods
June 30th, 2008 at 10:02 am
I completely agree, but there are exceptions to every rule. My mother and father were together for 5 years, got married and then had 4 children…that didn’t stop him from leaving, it didn’t stop the marriage from falling apart..and they married out of love…so what say you on that?
And you’re right, I would have much preferred that her father and I were raising her in one household instead of two, but being the victim of a 2 parent household that went wrong, I am just happy that she has 2 parents who love her equally and don’t drag drama into her life. She actually has a co-operative loving situation under two roofs, instead of a destructive situation under one. And in the end she will have 2 mothers and 2 fathers who all love her unconditionally and have a vested interest in her growth, maturity and success. And I personally think her situation of love is much more condusive than what I experienced with my mother and father who did everything “right” in the order of how things should happen.
And as far as your fool comment goes, you were referring to me, just as you do with most commentors on here with your alleged indirect statments. Having a child doesn’t make you a fool, an unplanned pregnancy doesn’t make you fool…albeit irresponsible in most cases…it doesn’t make you a fool, and in my case a PLANNED pregnancy by two smart yet naive individuals doesn’t make you a fool. Being a fool is having a child because you think that it will change a situation or make it better. Being foolish is thinking that your life and relationship won’t be affected by having a child. You know if I had my choice I wouldn’t change who her father is for anything…and I had several excellent choices…some of whom actually wanted to get married, a lot of men and women can’t/won’t say the same about their choice while alot of them can/will.
I do believe there is a lot of irresponsibility out there these days with having children, there are a lot of people who aren’t ready to be parents and aren’t capable of being good ones. But there are a lot of people who are decidely having children out of wedlock, there are lot of women who are getting artificially inseminated who can provide a stable and loving environment, there are gay couples who are not also adopting…the definition of a loving family is evolving and it’s about time we stop grouping everyone into something negative just to make the theory sound better.
June 30th, 2008 at 10:03 am
gay couples who are* also adopting and providing a loving environment…
June 30th, 2008 at 10:03 am
“Teacia Im not calling “YOU” a fool. Im trying to figure out why Im a fool in combacks eyes for being responsible yet theres others out here getting knocked up and they are not called fools by her.”
The woman is grown. She has ONE child. Would my mother be a fool too.
“w.e.b dobois scholar”
Come on now he’s name isn’t even spelled right. You can’t pretend to be a civil right’s activist, when cant get a basic leader’s name right. That’s respect. Try again.
June 30th, 2008 at 10:04 am
“his name”
and your mama and daddy…are they still together??
June 30th, 2008 at 10:08 am
STAT TIME!
(click the + button to the right if you dont want to be hurt by facts)
blacks accounted for 50% of the AIDS cases diagnosed in the U.S, while being only 13% of the total population…. da fuk?
41% of men living with HIV/AIDS were black, and among women, 64% of women living with HIV/AIDS were black
In 2006, blacks accounted for 69 percent of reported cases of gonorrhea…18 times greater than that for whites
clymidia rate? 46% eight friggin times that of whites.
syplish? 43.2% for blacks… with black women having sixteen times the reported cases of white women and black men having 5 times that of white men!
(all of this can be found at cdc dont be lazy if you dont believe me)
Two thirds of black marriages will end in divorce
almost 80% of black children are born out of wedlock…. which isnt bad, but I wonder what % of those are non committed relationships (which is VERY bad and unacceptable)
so yea… bring the divorce rate down from 66% to 20%and bring the knocked up mommy rate down from 80% to 20% and you can have your 15% bump in STD’s (60% with HIV 56% with clymidia)
June 30th, 2008 at 10:10 am
And king and emperor are synonomous…the only difference is geographical.
…both meaning sovereign ruler of a country or a nation, usually heriditary.
…just thought you should know.
June 30th, 2008 at 10:14 am
…but all of your above stats have to do with education. We aren’t educating our children, no one is taking an interest in their future…and most of these statistics come from urban areas where the school system is underfunded and overloaded. No one CARES about their future and quoting statistics isn’t going to change them. Going around and volunteering your time in poverished communities will.
..you know what I can go on and on but I don’t think you will get what I’m saying, so why bother.
June 30th, 2008 at 10:18 am
Comeback:since when did I become a civil rights activist comeback? I am a normal black man just like every other brotha you meet around the office… only I have a keyboard and talk. Dispite being in the program in 8th grade…. Im still a retard…. i know i know… what were they thinking!
and NO my paternal parents are not together and my Godparents are widowed to answer you.
Teacia: Im totally not having much of a problem with gay people raising a child….. I just think it would be a little sticky of a situation if one person in a gay couple somehow wound up pregnant…..
Im glad we agree on something, this is a good day…. lets me and you have children now
June 30th, 2008 at 10:19 am
Hasani seriously it only takes a minute to get your own blog.
June 30th, 2008 at 10:26 am
“Teacia: Im totally not having much of a problem with gay people raising a child….. I just think it would be a little sticky of a situation if one person in a gay couple somehow wound up pregnant….. ‘
…that’s all you took from my statement. This is going to be a longer day than I expected.
June 30th, 2008 at 10:26 am
“And king and emperor are synonomous…the only difference is geographical.”
As us Geeks all know… an empire is made up of many kingdoms.. romance of the three kingdoms is every geeks favorite game! kill all the kings to become emperor of china!
Kings can inherit a kingdom…. emperors have to CONQUER.
just thought you should know.
June 30th, 2008 at 10:28 am
“As us Geeks all know… an empire is made up of many kingdoms.. romance of the three kingdoms is every geeks favorite game! kill all the kings to become emperor of china!
Kings can inherit a kingdom…. emperors have to CONQUER.
just thought you should know.”
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Can you work site the video game for this pearl (peril) of wisdom
June 30th, 2008 at 10:29 am
Im not a gloy hound, I dont want my own blog… just like I dont want my own gaming magazine. Im happy supporting other great men who have great ideas. Steve Bauman, Dana Massey, sbm, Mike bloomberg… they are all on the same level
June 30th, 2008 at 10:41 am
Well while you’re riding their jock strap at least do three of them the honor of a wiki entry. And capitalizing SBM might be helpful as well. So that’s what you think of driven people “glory hound” does it make you feel better about some of your failures or lack or initiative.
Let me hip you to something real quick.
The women who you find yourself attracted to (PHD, MBAs, CEOs, MDs, JDs, up and coming leaders of industry) are USUALLY attracted to industrious men. They need not be millionaires, but being passionate about SOMETHING THEY ARE ACTUALLY GOOD AT (excluding video game playing in the middle of the night). Men who can speak about what drives them (aside from being a househusband with an apron) is an aphrodisiac. And most women don’t want to be primarily responsible for bringing home the bacon.
4 words: stay in your lane.
June 30th, 2008 at 10:41 am
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romance_of_the_Three_Kingdoms_%28game%29
dont worry, if you dont like the game you can watch the movie comming directed by Jon Woo (said to be the largest and most epic film ever made outside of the united states)
also if you are an ultra geek like myself, you can read the books “romance of the tree kingdoms” Luo Guanzhong… I swear to you it will be one of the greatest books you will ever read.
June 30th, 2008 at 10:50 am
touche’ on empire vs. kingdom
i like to give credit where credit is due.
….so all this knowledge and little ambition would make you the ummmm…court jester perhaps.
i agree with comeback, you lack the ambition and self-esteem to maintain a relationship with the very women you salivate over. i want for you to stop belittling yourself, then maybe i’ll give it a try…but until then the fun continues.
June 30th, 2008 at 10:51 am
you seem testy this morning… you want to call me and talk about it Tiffany? Im here to help you not fight with you, incase you didnt know that already.
Im in my lane. Your confusing knowing how to build something together with trying to be an all star. every nigga on the planet thinks they are a special snow flake?
You are a great poster, and a very beautiful woman. but nobody comes to your blog. Its not because nobody cares what you have to say… because traffic picked up on this site when you came on. conversely if SBM disbanded the site and came back up with another name and another site but wrote everything the same way would it be as much of a success?
I think that its a conglomeration of all of you normal posters Anti, sbm, Ms.D and myself… sigh and I guess Tecia too…. that make this site bigger than it would be if none of us contributed at all.
your a black woman, your race got where it is by us doing better banding together than staking out on their own and forsaking others? thats actually the problem with our marriage rate. certain types think they are too good and too special to be with others that are actually their peers.
we need to stop trying to be a special little snowflake…and know that working together can become an avalanche.
June 30th, 2008 at 11:00 am
ummmm…what does this have to do with you dating equally ambitious women?
June 30th, 2008 at 11:04 am
Conversely couldnt you both be single because of your lack of ambition….. at home?
I think we can all agree that Home > Work
I went to work to provide for my home… I didnt have a home so I could rest for work /boggle!
The single fathers I know dont have two jobs because they want a new pair of air force ones…. they do it because they want to provide for their child.
besides.. like I said before, There are multi million dollar games that you pick up every day with my name on it. thats not lack of ambition. And how quickly we forget the brotha who worked his way from the loading docks to shit lead of a tier 3 IT support group… sheesh that story alone makes a for a good sitcom.
If I could only find a mate as positive and as fine as I want, I would make a run at city council after (oh you lazy negro you)… but first things first.
June 30th, 2008 at 11:12 am
but women who have PH.D’s and M.D’s or even a Juris Doctorate aren’t looking for a man who basks in the glory of others and lacks the ambition to put all that talent to work for himself.
lack of desire was the reason i am single…i now desire one and plan to put in the work…so far, so good…i’m definitely on track with my plans…how about u? do u even have a plan?
June 30th, 2008 at 11:13 am
arent we supposed to be talking about why you guys disagree that male form of birth control is a good idea and I think its a great idea?
Like.. I know im a peach and all… but sheesh! The women I salivate over? you make it sound like I am pavlovs dog looking at his dinner dish. If Im nor mistaken I have been out on more dates this year than either of you have been in your lifetime. thats not looking, thats doing. most have trepidation of commitment, dating and especially sacrifice…. like we have with comebackgirl. dispite having the motto and mantra of making a comeback to love and dating she is currently avoiding my advances dispite me having a whole heaping load of her little X’s marked off on her fancy “boy checklist”
but I digress…..
Seriously… if you guys want to talk directly to me this much …
CALL ME
I know such powerful and diversified black women such as yourselves arent afraid of being on the phone with simple minded dumb brute like myself… right?
June 30th, 2008 at 11:14 am
I have work to do, Hasani. As for my blog, I feel good that the 60,000 hits I’ve gotten since November is not about driving traffic, its not about making money, its just a diary of my life, its about living in my truth. If people are attracted to it, so be it. If they aren’t hey I still eat. I have other things that will make me a fortune in 10 years-this blog is not one of them.
You’re a low achiever. And thats ok too. But don’t pee on our heads and tell us its raining. You’ve already mentioned that you work in a job you aren;t even qualified to do. (THAT’s NOT A TURN ON). It just shows you talk a good game but you don’t like to do the real work it takes to get and stay on top.
Its simple. I do still perscribe a blog for you, maybe it would show you how to be consistant, maybe how to monetize things you might suspect you have a talent for.
June 30th, 2008 at 11:25 am
Miss ER has more education than you will ever attain in your life… and she says I am the finest and most decent man she has ever known…. shrug
Miss May has more education than both of you put together will ever attain in your life (double PHD) and all she wants is a man who will love honor and cherish her.
The 6ft indian lawyer I just finished dating only wanted a “good man who could make her laugh when she came home” she was just a tad too promiscuous for my tastes
My gal pal is a PHD and earning over 80k a year and at 34 she says liek any other gal I just want a guy who loves me oh and he better be firggin hot.
My sisters god mother has a PHD. Her God father works as a train.
My godmother is an MD… my god father worked on an assembly line at the ford plant
these are the two most successful marriages I have ever seen in my entire life and the four people I base my life around. perhaps you shouldnt talk for the mindset of people who have more education than you could ever hope to attain? want to start answering how black men feel about contracting STD’s from a male point of view next? how about telling us how it feels to be a migrant worker here in the US? your view of how it feels to be a survivor of a nuclear holocaust?
ok … back to the TOPIC!
Male birthcontrol is a great idea because we need to be having less unwanted prego women! all you nay sayers need be slapped with a phonebook who disagree!!
June 30th, 2008 at 11:37 am
there’s only one thing you’ve said that i’m going to address…you could NEVER go on more dates than me and have not thus far…and that’s only this year we’re talking about…lol, i’m not even going to include my lifetime. the difference is that of our combined dates more men walked away wanting to be a permanent placement in life than the women who RAN away from yours.
but i too agree that male birth control is a great idea, although i believe the execution will be poor.
June 30th, 2008 at 11:38 am
“My sisters god mother has a PHD. Her God father works as a train.
My godmother is an MD… my god father worked on an assembly line at the ford plant”
Thats all fine and dandy, but those men worked during a time when industrialism was still relatively stable. We are in a new economy and have been in that economy for the last 15 years or so..none of those PHDs told you that?
The new economy has changed the rules a bit…its where people with just 4 years of college easily outearn people who thought one path would arrive to one destination. I’m all for advanced degrees, I am seriously thinking about one (that I can fully pay for without a loan) but it won’t be to make an extra 50 or 60k, it would be to enter a completely new discipline and to teach, write and practice. At that point money would be a non factor.
June 30th, 2008 at 11:42 am
*pulls up a seat and grabs a bucket of pop corn*
I do very much enjoy watching the exchange between you all on SBM, this one in particular only because as of late i’ve noticed the ladies really giving it to Hasani and he…pretty much taking the bait (literally every single time) and we all get to see him/his comment/opinion getting picked apart normally because of his on rhetoric. Nothing against him because we are all entitled to our opinions, i just find it to be very entertaining.
Anyway, back to the topic at hand.
I also have issue that this would be perceived as a replacement for the condo in cases of non-monogamous relationships, the random hook up, one night stand, just-a-tip (it’s ok baby, just in case something happens i’m taking the pill), etc. In addition to the hormone shots (i believe this is only for one of the methods, not both) I wouldn’t jump right on this off the gate anyway.
Let the rest of my gender that’s eagerly wanting to pop some medication that ultimately shuts down sperm production and is “100% reversible after 16wks of not taking it”. Get back to me in about 3-5yrs once this hits the shelves and there’s been few to “no issues or side effects” like they are predicting…..Then i’ll consider this an option, until then i’ll continue with the method that’s proven itself effective for me. This method does [b]not[/b] include me putting a device under my skin that i’ll need to take shots of something thats already naturally in my body in order to continue to feel like I did prior to….neither does it include me taking a pill that shuts down my sperm count but doesn’t affect ejaculation (still not sold on this statistic).
June 30th, 2008 at 11:52 am
Note: meant to say *condom* in first sentence second paragraph
June 30th, 2008 at 12:25 pm
I love the idea of male birthcontrol because now I believe there will be a lower percentage of unwanted children in the world. Men finally have the reproductive control they have been complaining about. Athletes, professional men, and other high income earners don’t have to worry about some random broad getting knocked up. I bet the famous attorney William Gray who cheated on his wife and got that nurse knocked up with twins is kicking himself now as he writes the 20k per month child support check. Silly chicken heads and women with questionable morals will now have to find other ways of getting a man to stay and not use a poor innocent child as bait.
On the other hand I hope that STD/HIV rates do not go up. The male condom does not preclude men from making sure ethat their partner is STD/HIV free. I hope that men don’t go around having sex with women raw because having an unplanned pregnancy is minor to contracting HIV.
June 30th, 2008 at 12:41 pm
@B. Price: he likes the attention, good or bad, it’s still attention to him.
@Muse: Finally a man who sees both sides of the equation. I think it’s a great idea, but I think the STD rates will skyrocket…men have unprotected sex now in unprecedented numbers KNOWING that a chic may get pregnant, but yet they still raw dawg it. So it’s my conclusion that the rates will most definitely go up if men know that no spawn will come from it.
June 30th, 2008 at 12:45 pm
I am always buying condoms…wait, I didn’t mean ALWAYS…hehehe
…but I make sure I have at least one in my purse, in my pocket, in my shoe, stashed down my bra like my grandma used to keep her money…
My point is…with or without a pill…you ain’t riding bareback…pregnancy aside…you aren’t passing scivies to me, from all the other diseases you can get while up in some unhealthy snatch.
June 30th, 2008 at 1:30 pm
The idea of people having sex without condoms in this day and age frightens me. I’ve never had sex without condoms even though I knew my partner’s sexual history and status. The temporary good feeling isn’t worth the lifetime of disease.
June 30th, 2008 at 1:48 pm
Fam, I’m going to have to catch up on comment reading after work. I’m just now tuning in on today’s topic of discussion and hot diggity damn if I didn’t just have the most ignorant conversation with a good male friend regarding this subject. Other than it being a waste of more than an hour of my time, he had a nerve to say that using condoms and birth control is the equivalent of an abortion…WTF??!!!??? As if it doesn’t take a sperm and an egg to make a child…his argument: you kill the child by using the rubber. That rubber (or that birth control) is there to block that reproduction cycle brutha.
Oh yeah, I know a dude that got fixed. I applaud him for that since he has 4 already. Why should the women be the “responsible” ones to stop reproducing when it’s time to quit….assuming that man and woman planning to spend a lifetime of eternity…blah, blah, blah.
June 30th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
I agree with you Neonnea…I just don’t think men will keep it consistent. I also agree with you Muse, I was just thinking about the what if I ever came across dirty sperm…how different my life would be if I had an STD like HIV or, gonorrhea. You can’t get rid of that with a pill…it’s a scary thing. And although at 28 I’m responsible enough to make rational decisions, I wasn’t as responsible at 21…if male birth control was a hit back then I know more men would have had no reserves about unprotected sex, and my life because of ignorance and irresponsibility could be fatally different.
It’s a scaring thought…a sobering scary thought.
June 30th, 2008 at 2:03 pm
Addition background on the conversation: My friend was trying to justify abortion; however, his reasonings (I felt) were naive and green. Although I am pro-choice, the only reason I would have an abortion is if I were rapped. As an adult, he has a clear understanding of the “birds and the bees.” Wait a minute, the “men and the women.”
June 30th, 2008 at 2:13 pm
Teacia, gonorrhea can be cured by taking an antibiotic. It’s other STDs that can be scary…causing infertility, blindness and other serious health issues if undetected or not treated in a timely fashion.
June 30th, 2008 at 2:19 pm
forget about if men keep it consistant… you worry about your own gender and I will handle mine.
because the first 60 years of your team having birthcontrol your fucking it up and dropping the ball…
your take the pill/shot/implant now? 80% unwed mothers having babies
your the head of the households? 80% unmarried rate
now lets see what happens when the men cant be tricked and trapped into pregnancies. Rates wont change a whole lot over all because the implants are not going to be available to the lower class… which unfortunatly is the majority of “african americans” by stats.
but what I care about is the middle class and how it effects us who are in it and those who can actually afford this form of contraceptive, and what it does to dating dynamics.
I know many a nigga who is married to a chick he “kinda” liked at the time.
and theres many a baby momma who was the “bottom bish” weather she knew it or not and get knocked up and decided to “try and start a family” why only in the black community do we have no morals when it comes to working together….no morals when it comes to sacrifice…. no morals when it comes to sleeping with the wrong people…. no morals when it comes to poisons…..no morals when it comes to safe sex… but all of the sudden when it comes to abortion women want to catch the holy spirit?
god this is such a good idea and my black men need this! I view it as a cure and salvation to our number one plague.
June 30th, 2008 at 2:22 pm
My bad I meant Genital Herpes…which just the thought of is disgusting…puss filled bumps on my cooch…laaawwd take me home.
I’m also pro-choice, I used to be pro-life but I continue to live in a world where people take no responsibility for their actions…so I’m now pro-choice. Maybe SBM will tackle abortion one day…he’s slowly bringing out the heavy hitting conversations, but I think he’s a little scared to get past the fluff…*love you ButtaRone*
June 30th, 2008 at 2:27 pm
you guys are thinking negative.
DO you all eat worse because theres plavix to cure heart disease?
do you let more random nigga cum inside yo coochie because theres a morning after pill?
are we starting more wars because we have atomic weapons??
ok… skip that last one… but seriously. IM just as worried about HPV now as I was before, and theres a shot for that… only works for women.. but theres still a shot. First woman who raises her hand and says “I dont go to the gyno for my papsmear cuz Im not worried about HPV…cuz theres a shot” wins can talk.
If nothing else has gone up because of cures… then why in gods name are you being so nagative about something as wonderous as this? next thing you know someone is gonna come on here saying its part 2 of Tuskegee and the “man” is trying to make the black community inferfile .
get real and stop having babies out of the bonds of love.
PLAN a family
June 30th, 2008 at 2:30 pm
Hasani - Likewise. Other than worrying about STDs, I worry about dudes trying to trap me…Get me pregnant because they don’t want to see me with anyone else for WHATEVA reason. They see my potential success track. Sometimes I think “Captain save-a-n!gga” is on my back.
June 30th, 2008 at 2:31 pm
“now lets see what happens when the men cant be tricked and trapped into pregnancies. Rates wont change a whole lot over all because the implants are not going to be available to the lower class… which unfortunatly is the majority of “african americans” by stats.
but what I care about is the middle class and how it effects us who are in it and those who can actually afford this form of contraceptive, and what it does to dating dynamics.”
i’m officially sending your ass the corner! YOU ARE NOT A PART OF THE MIDDLE CLASS(first and foremost)!!! You are moderately above the poverty level so I suggest as lower class earner you start dealing with the issues that affect your kind the most.
now you see how ignorant and heartless that shit sounded. negro ain’t shit going to change but the disease rate. men who aren’t responsible enough to put on the condom won’t have access to the birth control like you stated, thus the statistics remaining the same. and no one trapped your ignant asses into anything. PUT ON A FUCKING CONDOM ALREADY! It’s not the woman’s fault that your broke or dumb ass decided to bypass the local 7-11 and throw a hail mary on your future. it takes 2 Sani baby…2 people to either fuck up or make the decision to procreate.
everytime you get in front of your computer you say SOMETHING stupid, anything you can think of it seems. Hasani you know what, i refuse to believe you’re this dumb. no man this dumb can have his opinion valued in a multimillion dollar industry…so again i refuse to believe a word you say. you just like the attention and will say WHATEVER you can to get…yep, you can’t be this dumb.
June 30th, 2008 at 3:01 pm
Damn…this a good topic. I’ve had a vasectomy. I tell all my boyz they need to get one. Take control of your own destiny and don’t wait on a woman to handle your business. I promise there’s no way anyone can tell me …they had a accident..or you got a baby on the way. It makes my life soo much simpler. It’s worth the $$$.
June 30th, 2008 at 3:02 pm
I still would like to know why 10 year left EXACTLY. You can write for days about all of the stats you copy and paste but won’t directly cite. Touch on her for a few sentences.
June 30th, 2008 at 3:57 pm
i think a more pertiunant topic would be why a single black woman would who claims to be on the comeback for love… is dodging love from a single black healthy “cute” black man?
i know your not afraid of me getting you pregnant… i dobut we would even have sex, its just one date for christs sakes.
do you think your too good to date me in your own opinion?
June 30th, 2008 at 4:06 pm
“do you think your too good to date me in your own opinion?”
is that a trick question.
June 30th, 2008 at 4:11 pm
Teacia.. if it wont effect anything.. then you and rest of the angry black women types… or the “I wanna get knocked up” types… have nothing to worry about right?
its a great idea… so why argue just for the sake of having something to argue about? hey… wait a minute… isnt the arguing about everything and constantly bitching the thing that most of those black men are saying as to why they date white women? arent We being a walking stereotype?
seriously.. theres nothing to argue about.
you sound just as ignorant talking about what men would do as you do trying to guess what my women who have twice your education and pedigree as you are thinking. Stop speaking for those not in your category. its blatant speculation…. and if that word is too big for you it means your TAKING A HUGE FUCKIN GUESS.
heres a clue… if every fuckin man on this blog says he would do it… and the one woman says “men would” …. guess who is talking without having a darndest of a clue?
lets stop arguing just for the sake of being angry. You have your health, nice teeth, a decent job, good hair and a body that screams “fuck me” louder than Jenna Jamisen sex scene….. by easy and relax mon ami , life is beautiful.
June 30th, 2008 at 4:13 pm
no comeback, its a legit question. do you think your too good or higher quality of a person than I am and thus out of my dating range as we both sit here today.
then why dodge my phonecalls and not answer my emails for just one date?
June 30th, 2008 at 4:17 pm
Ok, so I made it through all of the comments “well pretty much”. Too tired to respond to everyone individually, so I’ll just talk and pick up whatever applies to you if it sounds like I’m talking to you.
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I agree, I do think STD rates will increase. Hasani, what are you talking about people eating better!!!!! American are like 10 times fatter than they ever were. And personally, great health care has probably made people care less.
Teacia, can we as men get some credit. Are we all some lazy ass negro’s? Why do you think we can’t handle taking a pill, getting a shot, or whatever it may be (BTW … injection goes nowhere near the dick … I agree … aint nothing worth that one).
Hasani, did you actually get a vasectomy?
No more references to this “ButtaRone” individual. WTF. Is my nickname gonna be “Delicious” next … cause can’t no grown ass man (nor woman) walk around calling me either.
BPrice, it is entertaining … isn’t it. Hasani walks right into it, and then asks for more. *sigh*
I do think I would f around and have more condomless sex with this pill (I have given up condomless sex years ago FYI). Its not that I would actively be trying to do it more … but if the strap is at the other end of the room … and u get close to that warmth … and then … wait … what was I talking about?
June 30th, 2008 at 4:21 pm
Hasani, give that sh*t up man.
What would your boys say if they saw you making a public spectacle of yourself.
Anti, please help me school this boy!
June 30th, 2008 at 4:37 pm
“i think a more pertiunant topic would be why a single black woman would who claims to be on the comeback for love… is dodging love from a single black healthy “cute” black man?”
Yes you are cute, but so is my neighbors poodle. Do you see me knocking on her door asking for a pooch date? It takes more. You spend too much time trying to find love. That time could be better spent culitivating WHO YOU ARE. You have all these excuses why you are skirting the poverty level and its not attractive to me. I’m not looking for an inconsistant beta male who doesn’t understand the pluses of Chicago/MLA format. And cant decide if he wants to hate “the establishment” or date it.
June 30th, 2008 at 4:41 pm
americans eat worse now than before?? Bro, burger, fries and a double malt milk shake is what my MOM had on her date with my dad. I took miss ER out saturday and she had grilled chicken and chicken tortilla soup.
americans are in worse cardio vascular shape than before.. cus we have computers. but we are more educated about what we eat. We wont even talk about what I eat, but I think I am not normal as far as a diet and health goes. But my normal everyday brotha isnt goig to eat fast food every night of the week and soulfood all weekend and suck it all down with 3 lieters of soda and potato chips.
more people in the gym and doing poladdies now than in the 80’s …. thats not because they are saying “oh ill just take plavix to cure me of my heart disease when I get sick” infact I dont think any of us think that way. I know I am a black male and according to statistics I am more at risk for heart disease than any other race…. I dont play willy nilly thinking I have a pill to save me, just like I wouldnt think the rest of the black MEN would be just as responsible with birth control.
but lets say for arguments sake… SURE ill take the hit in STD rates and take the substancial drop in single mother rates single father rates and divorce rates.
Because if we have better marriages, we raise better and more aware kids.
We raise better and more aware and responsible children… trust me the disease rate will drop as well.
June 30th, 2008 at 4:44 pm
ahh comeback you didnt answer the question…
its yes or no.
do you think you are too good for me.
We see $$ is your reasoning for dating, you listed it quite a few times…. thats a very coommon and stereotypical… but still didnt answer if you think you are out of my league.
June 30th, 2008 at 4:49 pm
YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEES!!!!
But its not JUST about the money its about your overall outlook. Why waste your or my time.
June 30th, 2008 at 4:58 pm
Hasani the non answer from her is actually an answer…the nondate from her is another CLEAR indicator. Buy hey i’m just a spectator in all of this.
And for the sake of ending my day on a good note before heading off to the gym to work out some of this celibacy frustration, you’re absolutely right about whatever it was you said above that started after Teacia…(sorry i lost interest after that.).
Oh and SBM, I will never refer to you as Delicious…maybe Ronilicious…as in tender roni/tyrone + delicious…lmao…ahhh i crack myself up.
…oh but no you get no credit for the same reasons that you don’t act right. you know what’s right but since we don’t demand it from you as a unified front, you use it as a valid excuse to fuck up…theory works the same here. wearing condoms is what you SHOULD do, but since most women don’t demand it, men rawdawg it…taking birth control would be what’s right, but if we don’t demand it from you, you will drop the ball along the way.
game. set. match…and it’s as simple as that. **sorry for the lack of faith Ronilicious baby**
June 30th, 2008 at 5:01 pm
oh shit, she FINALLY said it…i will be back to check out how this unfolded….I LOVE THIS SITE!!
(commentator) will Hasani take the hint or will he continue to put himself out there for rejection?
continue to tune in to see how it all unfolds right here on SBM.net.
*peace* and i’m out!
June 30th, 2008 at 5:06 pm
Comeback, Teacia & Hasani: Stop arguing.
Lets all go and take a run around the block real quick to cool off. This soap opera is getting boring and I’m about to change the channel.
And Hasani, please stop addressing Comeback in this very public forum! I can’t let you embarass yourself further.
June 30th, 2008 at 5:13 pm
OK so to list….
black male
6′1 and a half
light brown eyes g
good teeth
GREAT morals
college educated
well spoken
Good looking
Nice athletic body
Dosent smoke
Dosent drink
Dosent use drugs
not a thug
player
Compassionate
good job
oh and no kids……
is not good enough for you? to the point where you belive your in a higher category than ME? oh see thats why your single. god didnt create you any separately than the rest of us. what makes you think you better than me? as pedigreed as you claim to be your not working with much more than the rest of us. The women I date now blow you and your small education for a mundane college out of the water with jobs and salary that match. I guess the women who go to school longer actually have more brains than you run of the mill types. If a man has to have ABOVE my stats to get a first date with you then you are already faced with your current dilemma and what you need to start telling your therapist. now.. walk back to that blog and start recanting that there are no decent black men out there who can commit… and start typing “dear diary.. I think there is a problem with me.. in fact i know there is”
Im not going to forsake you, Ill always be here to reach out to help you, I love you because you are fine as all hell, but ya gotta wake up and not be so unrealistic.
as much as you wanna say HNIC is on a soapbox, I think its rather easy to see who thinks they are above the rest on this blog.
June 30th, 2008 at 5:16 pm
@Hasani: Gotdamnit man … she doesn’t want you.
Please, keep what self respect you got left and fall back. You don’t need to be running after her.
@Comeback: Thanks for potentially helping the boy to gain closure. Now that you broke him down, we can start the healing process.
June 30th, 2008 at 5:19 pm
SBM im the only one of us who can finish that job around the block. I avoid eating bad and am not going to rely on plavix to save me from heart disease.
of course marrying an angry black woman may kill me anyway… gotta find me a nice happy one.
I cant speak for black men in the hood and I cant speak for black men in the penthouses… but Us suburban brothas who got any sense and are grown men dont want kids with the wrong broads and dont want our dicks to fall off.
just like we cheat less because its easier to sit home and play Xbox… why do you think we want to get MORE random ass because we have a pill that makes us less fertile? if we still have to put up with the same amount of bullshit to get someone into bed then how would the rate that we sleep with women go UP?
June 30th, 2008 at 5:21 pm
what? oh you crazy… I still want my date with comeback
give her a shot of Henne to calm her ass down first, actually make that a double shes angry as hell today
June 30th, 2008 at 5:27 pm
how am I angry. I’m healed. I like what I like. And I have been offically single for 7.5 weeks. I’m just giving Hasani some pointers. I don’t think I’m better than anyone. I’m most assured that there are people my age who went to a better college and more degreed.
But I know what I like. One date whatever….its not a beta male who wants to wear an apron on my dime.
June 30th, 2008 at 5:37 pm
Hey Fam, I haven’t read any of the other comments I am just responding about the post.
I think the birth control for the men is a good idea for a few reasons…
-protects men from unwanted pregancy ( athletics, celebrities, any man with alot of money)
-doesn’t have to put his total trust in a women saying she is on the pill and hoping the condom works
-makes him more responsible for his actions
However on the other hand…
-It may/will cause more men to go raw in a female.
-Increase STD’s drastically
-STD could kill babies don’t.
-Mainly I think it could decrease pregancy and increase STD
-More emotional stress for women because I think men will get a little crazy and f*ck everything possible.
There are greater risk out there. If men could control would that cause them to cheat more or just sleep with far more women than before? I think it could be a huge downside to a man taking birth control. We as women suffer more if we don’t take our pill. We have to carry the baby, sickness, moodiness, and etc. At the end of the day you can’t determine if across the male population if it would be best. Hopefully individuals will be responsible for the actions and decisions.
June 30th, 2008 at 6:29 pm
SBM did you see me end the fussing by simply agreeing with his idiocricies. *sighing* I just can’t win with you I see.
Hasani to your list and errthing else: No comment. You just don’t get it.
Comeback: Good luck with this, because he clearly doesn’t get that you can’t MAKE someone like you if they don’t.
Ms. D: Right on point with your statment.
June 30th, 2008 at 6:30 pm
After receiving one too many texts, IMs, and emails about it … SBM must decree something.
*unravels scroll*
There will be no more attempts by Hasani aka HNIC aka Sani Baby to get a date, phone call, email, text, smoke message from “The Comeback Girl” aka Angry woman aka my sister blogger.
If Hasani does not head my words … all of his comments will be moderated.
*rolls scroll back*
SBM has spoken
June 30th, 2008 at 7:39 pm
I’m still trying to figure out when angry meant exacting standards.
June 30th, 2008 at 8:16 pm
I have standards.. we all have standards…
buy none of us think they are better than anyone else which is funny. yo ass had the same single parent upbringing and most of us, middle class just like the rest of us, lived in the house like the rest of us… bleed and sleep like the rest of us..
your education is nothing above average looks are avcerage… everything is average compared to the rest of us, the thought that your better than any of the rest of us is hilarious.
ANgry comes from the amount that you argue.. not standards.
June 30th, 2008 at 8:48 pm
You are SOOO predictable
When you attempt to write long dissertations, you stand front and center as the house statistician. So now that you feel defeated you are apart of the group now??? That is totally classic.
And yes I have standards and a memory. Posting is like your calling card. The problem is that you write SOOOOOOOOOO much you forget what you write. You have not only been degrading to others (including me) but you have also spoke unkindly about yourself.
Trust and believe money comes and goes. But a certain grace, restraint and personal intelligence goes a long way. You can’t brag about not being qualified to do your job..when you are tyring to pursue women who are result driven. You can’t call me a fat azz (in any context) and me take that as a term of endearment. You can’t wow someone who loves science (by posting random numbers without an analysis on causation and citing a source. You can;t use those stats to make you feel better about dating non-black women and past the stuff off as gospel.
So yes if you call the above average…I guess thats what it makes me.
June 30th, 2008 at 8:48 pm
now I’m done with you. I still have work to do and money to make.
June 30th, 2008 at 9:06 pm
Hasani above average or not, whether she believe she’s better or not(btw, kudos to you girl)…the bottom line has always been that she’s not that into you. She has made that painfully clear just about in every exchange, she doesn’t HAVE to give you a reason. All she should have to do is say no…and you should respect that.
At first I thought it was cute and entertaining, but that only lasted a week. I have never in my life witnessed what you’ve put yourself through for someone whom you never met and inherently feel is just average in relation to your “roster”. I can’t for the life of me wrap my mind around your choice to constantly set yourself up for failure like this. I just hope you take heed to her final decision and SBM’s post because believe it or not I believe the meat of your rhetoric has substance…if we can just get you to cut back on the fat we could actually have a spirited dialogue amongst civilized adults.
*sighing* oooh to be naive.
June 30th, 2008 at 11:21 pm
Hasani…..Seeing how no other brother with the exception of SBM has stood up and said anything to you about this pitafull and embarrassing show of yours that you put on today….I’ll be the one to close out the night and do so.
Like I said earlier today, I follow this blog on a daily basis. 1) Because i know the author personally off line & want to support him in what he’s doing/trying to do. 2) Because it’s a good source to get other black people’s opinion about love and relationships, people that happen to be in the same generation pool as me, even if i don’t always agree with the views of most here (but I don’t blast them for it).
You know, at first i thought it was in fact what Teacia said about you wanting attention…negative, positive, whatever. Just attention. But as I go back over some of your comments I realize that attention isn’t what you want. You just want to argue, you purposefully make comments, respond to comments in a way that is going to draw certain people out and get them to respond in a specific type of way. It almost seems like a game to you really, and what happens is when they throw the truth right in your face, you start attacking.
You sling out these arbitrary and random facts/statistics (which by the way mean ZERO unless you have a source for them, which i’ve rarely if ever seen you produce) about how fcked up the race is, about how terrible black women are, how they don’t’ take care of their bodies, themselves, their relationships, their male counter-parts…But yet you chase Comeback like a dog in heat…Or should i say an anxious puppy running around in circles pissing on itself in a store shop window. Why do I say this? Because no grown ass man is going to chase any female over the internet like you have that is clearly out of his league (if you have to ask then just go back and read the past 9wks of comments on here with open eyes and you will see what i’m talking about).
I honestly don’t care how many successful (black) women you’ve dated, smashed out, been told what a catch you are (given the fact that this is the internet all that could be complete and utter BS, given my experience with people online i’d bet 45% of it is). Because i know more then a few that meet this criteria and some that work in daycares, NGO’s, customer service, retail, and food service that wouldn’t give you the time of day because in part of your attitude, and your narrow minded view point on so many different topics. Brother you are sad, i’m saying this not to degrade you, but to put you on notice.
So lets get to the meat and potatoes of my post, shall we?
Why oh why would you emasculate yourself in front of possibly millions of people and beg….BEG this woman to give you a shot at dating her (Really it’s a shot at having sex with her — we all know that’s what you really want to do, isn’t it?
See, i know the game brother) when you have perpetually insulted her (Teacia, and black women in general) and attempted to pretty much tell her that she isn’t worth sh!t next to most of the females you know or those that you’ve dated/throw themselves at you???? Seriously, you seem (key word: SEEM) smarter then t