Single Black Male

Another reader submitted email:

An acquaintance of mine has a dillema, and I wanted to know what you & the readers thought of this:

Her husband, went to Black Bike Week in South Carolina. Fast forward a few weeks later, and she gets a forwarded email with a link to a picture website. This website happens to have pictures of her husband at a party, and pics of him hanging out with random girls. He doesn’t have on his wedding ring in any of the pics, in some of the pictures he’s watching some really raunchy booty dancing (not participating though), and in another pic he’s hugged up with a pregnant girl and holding her belly. How do you respond to this? If this was your situation would you get upset? She has two kids and is determined to keep her family together, so he frequently gets a pass for doing stupid things. Her thought process is, that since the pictures don’t show him kissing or doing anything really raunchy with any girls, that she should just internalize it and drop it.

I don’t know what to tell her…I tend to run from this type of drama.

As a two time black bike week veteran, this one seems pretty cut & dry.

I wouldn’t take it to serious and your “friend” (funny how its always a friend) should bring it up to her husband, but I don’t think she should be too mad or upset about it. The only picture with him and another woman include a pregnant woman. The picture probably was subtitled with “Look at this mess … a pregnant girl at bike week” not “Damn … I want me some of that” (BTW … if you have the picture … I would love to see it). Also, with the “booty dancing”, he wasn’t participating. Similar to a stip club I would say, but he wasn’t paying and wasn’t touching. And lets be real … was he supposed to look away?

So in conclusion, I would tell her to ask about them in a joking manner and judge his response, but I have been down there with friends who have girlfriends. They both knew what was “too much” and acted accordingly. They were drunk and with their male friends in the crazy atmosphere of black bike week, but none came back with a story that they couldn’t tell their girlfriends (well … one kinda … but he literally ran once “too much” started happening).

Can I get a co-sign?

What am I doing today …

• Loading my bike on the back of a pickup.
• Picking up two (maybe 3) of my good friends.
• Driving 7 hours south to Myrtle Beach.
• Breathing in the ignorance.

Black Bike Week is just this huge celebration of ignorance. You have people not wearing any type of protective equipment (this is the one thing I don’t condone), girls barely wearing clothes, women jumping on the back of bikes with people they don’t know, insane amounts of one night stands, 24″ rims on old ass caprices with skittle colored paint, and girls who are willing to let you smack whatever for no reason. I mean … I almost feel bad just for wanting to go.

Really though … I love bike week. Its only my second time … but damn … last time … man … couldn’t even show people the pictures … it was nuts. But this year I plan to be “good” … I think I can do it … pray for me …

Everyone have a great Memorial Day Weekend. And if your in town for Bike Week … shoot me an email.

This one is short and sweet, but I thought I’d share this with my family as I plan to head to Myrtle Beach for the craziness of Black Bike Week. I know this is gonna happen to me at least 4 times while down there (happened like 6 times last year … but I’m on the lookout for it this time).