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The B*tch Breaker: The Guy That Doesn’t Get Turned Down

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SBM
on January 3, 2008
in Laws of Attraction and Men
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*Disclaimer* - The name was developed a long time ago at a different point in my life.  I have already introduced the BB moniker to others and don’t want to change it … so if your offended … don’t be and stop crying
                                                                                   - The Management 

To start this one, I have to talk about the percentile ranking. Every guy can be judged in a relatively absolute ranking system that should put us all on equal footing (kind of like the fallacy of APR when shopping mortgages). Its relatively simple, but I’ll explain.

If your in a club (average run of the mill) … how many girls out of 100 would actually entertain conversation with you based on looks.  That number … is your percentile ranking.

Now, its a little more complicated than that. Most guys are instantly hit with a 10%-20% drop which he isn’t responsible for. Not every girl wants to talk. A lot of females go to the club to enjoy the music, or because its her friends birthday, or maybe she has a strict “I don’t meet guys in the club” policy (I agree with her). Simply stated … there is going to be some female who just doesn’t want to entertain conversation with you … that is … unless your a coveted B*tch Breaker!

The B*tch Breaker (BB for short … and forgive the vulgarity of the name, I came up with it back in college and I was a “different” person back then) is the guy who is not (or rarely) affected by that inherent drop. Something about him … his look, his clothes, his swagger … allows him to approach practically any girl and get at least some attention. Married, Dating, committed man standing next to her, gay … doesn’t matter. He is the fabled person who can see a group of girls dancing with each other … utterly obsessed with turning down every guy that approaches them … and break this group of … females.

Everyone should have a BB in the crew (guys that is). He will open doors once closed, he turns impossible mountains into tiny foothills, he is the key to the once locked door. And if he knows of his power, and has decided to use it for good (easing his search for Ms. Right, helping his friend to enjoy their night) instead of evil (living an endless string of one night stands, breaking hearts) … he is also a great friend.

I guess this can apply to females also, but its significantly less significant. Us guys are dumb … and we’re downright imbeciles for an even moderetaly attractive woman. Damn near any girl above a 6.5 (out of 10) is a female BB.

Does this fabled figure exist? Can you (females) think of the time you were determined to not talk to any guy … yet that one person still managed to leave with your number? Are you that BB?

Stop Playing Games … Its OK to call him!

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SBM
on December 19, 2007
in Dating, Relationships and Women
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This is gonna be a quickie, but its a follow up to some comments I receieved yesterday.

This is an old topic, and I’m going to have to revisit in detail.  For all of my life I have heard girls talk about this.  I’ve heard the “don’t call him … you’ll give him too much power” to “you can’t act like you like him … he’ll lose all interest” to the ludicrous “Girl … ignore all his calls, don’t talk to him when u see him, and curse his momma out … that’s the way to get them”.

Come on!  I will admit there is something sickingly irresitable about a challenge and few people want things to come too easy.  BUT … as with almost everything else … its a thin line that must be walked.  Sometimes females are so obsessed with not showing they like a guy, he has no idea that she may like him, and may get tired and move on.  Some do it right, but some are in their 20’s making me relive high school.

Personally, most of the girls I have really liked have not been afraid to call.  I am really bad with calling, even when I really really like somebody.  Someone who isn’t afraid to call me gets SO many points.  It shows your serious, means your not playing games, and if it makes sure u earn a fair chance.

But … I’ll admit, it can be overdone.  One person thought 4 phone calls a day was a good idea.  And would continue this day after day.  And all of the calls were getting ignored at some point.  Don’t be like her.

Someone else though would hit me up to see how I was doing about twice a week.  I had been bad with keeping in touch, but I did enjoy conversation with her.  It ended up turning into a pretyt serious (although now defunct) situation.

Lastly, there is email and other forms of communication.  Don’t be scared to show a little intrest by communicating … its Ok.

As I promised, I will have to follow up with a more indepth analysis.  This time it was mainly calling. But I ask:

Is it good for a woman to call a man she is interested in, or must she wait until the end of time and not “give in”?

The Alley Test

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on December 13, 2007
in Laws of Attraction
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Its generally a well known fact that girls often are highly attracted to and often flock to those “icky” guys.  Whats even more of a problem is that nice guys really are finishing last.  Assholes are in high demand, while nice guys fight over the few girls looking for them.  Now I will admit that this is something that plagues mainly young girls (21 & under) as opposed to the sophisticated women that I adore (24 & up).  Really, this topic is a whole post that I will have to write at another time, but it makes a good intro for today’s rant.

Back in college (only a few years ago for me), I was talking to a female friend (I have a very small number of these) about the subject, and she told me when it came to any guy, they had to pass the “Alley Test”.  I asked her to elaborate.  She said that any guy who was with her need to be able to walk down an alley with her at 3am and make her feel safe.  She also went on to elaborate about how most of the guys at our school just didn’t cut it.  They were just “too educated and stuff”.

Man … didn’t know if I should go crazy and curse her out … or tell her mom and have her bust her head until the white meat.

WTF.  Why is it a smart brother can’t fight?  I’m smart, and I used to fight all the time.  I’m 6 foot, over 200 lbs, and have been known to have a short fuse.  In addition, I got 2 degrees know computers, how to program, and can tell you why you should have bought Google stock 2 months ago.  TRUST … if we’re walking down an alley, you can grab onto to my shoulder and not be scared.

But really … what is more important.  That I can fight when need be, or that my life goals, career, and job can provide for me and you.  How many times are we going to be walking through an alley at 3am?  You need to be thinking how many times we’re gonna go out and you don’t want the credit card to not come back declined?

I mean, this was one person, but I have even read articles talking about the same thing.  Apparently a lot of Black Women just are looking for the wrong things.  So sad.

Is the alley test valid now?  Is that what its important?  Do we as men need to let it be known we’re ready to get the swinging instead of our ability to provide and love?

Please … let me know

The Four Man Plan

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SBM
on December 11, 2007
in Men and Video
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I found this video here … which then led me to here and after watching it … I thought she made some good points.One important point is why girls like the “icky” guy. It was a moot point in the video, but something I have always wondered about personally.

I will admit, she has a good point about the level of chivalry and “niceness” as it pertains to sex. And yes, there is a very good chance a female will see diminshing returns after sex occurs … but hey … thats life.

Any willing to test this out in the field and let me know (as a courtesy to the guys though, I will have to inform them afterwards). Continue reading ‘The Four Man Plan’