Single Black Male

What do women want?

A question that has plagued many males. A question debated and argued in barbershops, dorm rooms, strip clubs, and in psychological circles across the country. The basis of a few movies, at least one doctorate thesis, a couple case studies … and a memorably episode of “Save by the Bell: The College Years”.

When it comes to what women want from men, this question gets complicated some people … especially guys … but not all guys. There are plenty of us who have discovered the answer to this a long time ago, but sadly, right now there is some guy who just can’t get a date or is crying over the girl who just dumped him (the punk … where they do that at?) and looks to the sky and crys out to the heavens … “WHAT DO WOMEN WANT FROM ME!?!?!?!?”.

Well, to this sorry brother I will help him out and spell it out for him. I also might educate someone else in the process. You would think one of his friends would have sat him down a long time ago and had a conversation with him about it … but guess not everyone is that lucky.

You might be thinking … “this is going to be deep” or … “this is probably some complicated information” and you need to take notes. But honestly … its so simple. What do women want from us men … Everything.

Yeah … thats it … Everything!

OK, so I will elaborate, because some are probably mad right now (”Whatever … we don’t want everything! He’s talking out his ass”) and some are probably confused (”Everything … thats impossible … what is he talking about”) and then you have those who are already in the know (”Finally … someone said it”).

A woman needs a man to be strong, caring, emotional, distant, hard to get, easy to talk to, available, not too available, funny, serious, smart, cool, “hood”, professional, sexy, good dressing, able to dress down, high class, normal, moral, freaky, clean cut, a little rough, etc., etc., etc. Basically, he needs to be a jack of all trades and master of none.

But here is the thing … its OK. I understood and came to this conclusion years ago. When “talking” to any girl I’m interested in, its easy to provide “everything” (or at least as much as I need to). Any guy who is even half capable of getting women can be all of these things (and fake what he’s not). He’s funny, but not always the comedian. He shows interest, but isn’t blowing up your phone. He is educated, but doesn’t use useless big words. And even if he is not every single thing on the list … he’s damn close.

I’m gonna end this one with a plea to all women. Realize that your perfect guy has everything. Realize that providing everything is hard. We can do it for short periods of time (the courtship period) … but its like sprinting … that sh*t is tiring … and sometimes you just need to walk (after maybe a month in). Also, if you don’t get everything … your not settling … your being realistic!

Thought this funny email would make a good introduction to my next post. I almost fell out laughing when I read it … but its SO true!

A store that sells new husbands has opened in New York City, where a
woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the
entrance is a description of how the store operates:

You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the
value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights.
The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may
choose to go up to the next floor, but you cannot go back down except
to exit the building!

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband. On the first
floor the sign on the door reads:

Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs.

She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign
reads:

Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.

“That’s nice”, she thinks, “but I want more.”

So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads:

Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good
Looking.

“Wow,” she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.

She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking
and Help With Housework.

“Oh, mercy me!” she exclaims, “I can hardly stand it!”

Still, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous,
Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.

She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where
the sign reads:

Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men
on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are
impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.

PLEASE NOTE:

To avoid gender bias charges, the store’s owner opened a New Wives
store just across the street.

The first floor has wives that love sex.

The second floor has wives that love sex and have money.

The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited.

I’ve always had a few females friends. I used to think they were good resources for back when I was socially awkward and lacked the ability to talk to women (sadly … this wasn’t that long ago). I figured “girls know what other girls like. They will lead me out of this awkward phase”. Man … I was kidding my self.

Some women nowadays are willing to admit that they don’t know what they want. Others, however, hold onto the belief that they know exactly what they want from men, life, and their career … but its interesting how so many of their choices seem to follow some different logic that they just … can’t explain. When it comes to men, this often becomes glaringly true.

- How often does a female tell you they want a guy who will provide and take care of her … yet every guy who does is labeled as soft and its the jobless “loser” thats beating it up on the nightly?
- How often does a girl tell you she needs a committed boyfriend who will rub her feet at night .. yet the guy she is currently “seeing” is never seen with her during the day, has never met her friends or family, and has managed to keep his place of residence a secret for 6 months?
- How many girls out there claim they want to be held at night and whispered sweet words to … yet her current “partner” pulls her hair, goes at her with the furuosity of a wild animal, and then promptly falls alseep (or leaves) after he “gets his”?

If there is one thing I have truly learned in my relatively short time on this earth is one thing … guys who get girls know girls … period.

They know what they really want, what they really want to hear, and what kind of personality they are actually attracted to … thats why they get as many girls as they do. No one understands the female psyche better than the “player”. He is skilled at translating the words a girl tells him … able to peel back the layers of BS and decipher the true meaning in her words.

There is one thing that easily proves this. Almost any girl will attest to one simple fact … any guy who gives her everything she “wants” is not attractive. This guy is soft, a punk, to eager to please, or a million other things. The one thing he is not … is her man! (sidenote: I did watch “I Love New York 2″ and she did pick the true ‘bitch’ of the bunch … but that chick is nuts … and she really was in love with the one guy who wouldn’t give her an inch).

I will say this … something like that could be argued for men … but I feel like its not that hard to figure out what we want. I mean … there is like 2 things I can think of at the most (prize to the person who guesses right)! What we want is obvious … how to keep us from getting bored or tired … well … that is the million dollar question.

So I know some female is going to tell me how she is the exception, about how she is different … and please … do tell. But I know there is plenty of guys who agrees with me!